Be ever vigilant...

I stand behind you Vstyler and would do the same...

Me too on that note, ouch!

Im with you too!

It dosent sound like there was anything you could have done to prevent this from happening. Even if you knew where he was, you would not have known THAT was going to happen. I know it had to be upsetting and painful to see that happen to one of your children. I would want to kill the guy too.

When my son was about 8 years old, the neighborhood bullys beat him up pretty bad. This happened about half a block from home! If I had been there, those kids would be dead and I would be in jail. There would have been NOTHING that could have stopped me.

Do your best to remain calm and level headed. I know it's hard. Go after that #@*&$# through the legal system if thats what ou want to do.

Your son is in my prayers.

... is one thing... a fully grown 36 year old is another... I'm 39.

..thank you for your concern however.

I think we all stand behind you.

Best wishes to you and your Son.

thx...W..B?   

It's a shock hearing such things. I cant understand what going on in those peoples mind, I have no idea where they get all those thoughts...I live in israel, alot of times it happen to be a very violence country, but it's still can be peacefull and wonderfull. I feel sorry for ur son and hope he gets better. I can understand how you feel.

I felt this one John.

My son Curtis Jr. is 27 years old, paralyzed from the waist down, struck by a bullet when he was 14.

There ain't nothing that can make me feel good about it. Ain't nothing that'll stop me from crying.

Shit man, I'm at work writing this and crying for you.

Lifes been good to me, I have to admit, but nothing matters when your child gets hurt, it ain't fair for no child. Give 'em a chance.

Anyway brother, I want you to know that I'm right there with you. You tell that son of yours that Uncle Curtis is thinkin' about him.

You keep your chin up and keep on being vigilant. 2007 there's no such thing as "over-protective." Protect them while you can!

Cp

Thx Cirtis and everyone... 2.32 am   

I hear ya V...It wasn't even my kid and I'd love to stomp the guys ass!

V and cPlair, I really feel for you guys ... this stuff really makes me think about what this world is coming to ...

My heart goes out to you & your son V and to you cPlair. I agree that we need to be vigilant of everyone in our communities. Because of increasing extreme violence where I soon will be moving to, the mayor went to New York to meet with the CEO & Founder
Curtis Sliwa of The Guardian Angels to gather info & come up with a plan to protect the people. That is just an example of what communities can do to protect themselves. It is time that we control our streets & homes as well as following through with the justice system.

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John, I understand your emotion completely but you should rephrase the part about the killing. You can be held accountable for those words. Don't think the Man doesn't have bots pillaging the web looking for specifically those words.

Sending out good thoughts to you and your son John.

I've got four daughters and the I know the best I can do for them is to teach *THEM* to be ever vigilent.  They need to keep their eyes open and make sure they make the best choices possible to avoid or get out of dangerous situations.

I think parents liek to think they are in control or at least have some control of their kids.  That might be true, but the real danger is from other people's kids.

Again . . good thoughts and prayers to you and yours.

As an aside . . those stitches would make an interesting skin. 

You won't find many fathers that feel differently.

All you can do is your best and hope for the best ... and if you're so inclined, praying doesn't hurt either.

I can understand this sentiment because I (inwardly) thought the same thing regarding arsewipes who did wrong by my kids. Fortunately, for my missus and kids sakes, however, commonsense prevailed and unnecessary violence did not ensue....cos ultimately it would have been at their expense.

The best thing you can do for your son is be there for him, to assist his recovery (both physically & mentally) in the absence of anger....thoughts of retribution will hinder this process rather than help it.

Having said that, I hope all is well for your family and that your son recovers fully from this ordeal.

i'm sorry to hear that John all my prayers and thoughts for him, you and your family seriously. I can really feel what you feel. I'm a dad now and i understand that if someone touch my daughter he'll need to run really quickly believe me
Now as it happened to me something what is happened to your son i can tell you that too:
all can work out. I've got some scars (and some really bad), but 5-10 years later you'll can't see them before i show them to you. look at my picture on my page i've one of them on neck, i've also one on my face from a guy who has crushed my face on gravels on 5 meters at school (at 12 years old). An other guy gave me a blow of knife in the leg,... (i can continue but who care )
Not with the same height as your son got ok. But the time can erase them.
For the mind scars, take care of him, talk with him when he need it the family and friends are the better things who can care them.
again all my prayers and thoughts for him, you and your family that's really sad

Thanks everyone, I wrote this last night when I was a tad emotional and after a couple of white russians..anyway.. I appreciate everyones concern, life goes on and its not what cards you get it's how you play them.. and i've always been good at cards.   

I am shocked to hear that.

All the best wishes to your son. I hope he will get better soon.

hope he's on the mend soon......amazing how resilient kids are......it's us who end up the basket cases.....  

No amount of words can ever remove the pain you had to endure. Not being a parent myself I can't imagine the emotions that came over and went through you and your family.

My prayers go out to your son, you and your family. I light a candle for you family in the hope that all works out and your son recovers form this.

John...

Curtis...

John how awful.. The pictures are worth a thousand words. I know your frustrations and anger as a parent. And cp I am so sorry about your son. Life is sure not fair somtimes and we wonder why these things happen. Curtis is right. There are NO words to help your hurt and pain you both feel. I just want you to know my good thoughts and prayers are coming your way to both of you.
You really have to be courageous to be a parent. I know... We lost our dear daughter from cancer two years ago.. Never easy.. Only time helps.............I also stand strong behind you....

Curtis, I totally agree with you, there is no such thing as being over-protective.
These days violence seems to be over the top, kids don't just get into fights, they try to kill each other. And there's no excuse for that 36 year old loser to beat up on your kid V, I hope the authorities act on this and I hope that bum serves some decent jail time for what he did to your boy. I saw that pic you provided and it scared the heck out of me, my kids are little and I'm afraid for them now and even more afraid thinking about how it will be when they're older and if situations like these will happen to them. Hearing that this 36yr old's mom bailed him out makes me even angrier, she obviously has no idea about how to help her kid even if he's an adult. I definitely wouldn't have made bail for my kid if he did this to somebody else in a drunk rage - I would have let him sit in the can with no access to any type of substance abuse and made him think about how much he hurt that other person.

People nowadays have no idea about responsibility for action, the system doesn't make it any better, after charges are pressed and even if this jerk gets sentenced for what he did, the sentence will be less than what should be for his actions and he'll no doubt get out early with "good behavior".

V, you have a right to feel the way you do - you're a parent and you have a right to protect your children. If you can look at this way (and it's difficult to do so, I'm sure), You are lucky you weren't there when it happened, you probably would have messed that punk up something serious and you would have been charged with what happened and who knows how the law would deal with your actions regardless of the situation. That punk is lucky too, I know if it were me I would have made him sorry for what he did to my kid.

I couldn't even imagine what I would be feeling in your spot right now - I don't even want to.