I've seen some comments made about my friend Sabrina recently that have really bothered me.  Certain people seem to think that she's responsible for all the ills of the world....that she's broken up marriages, screwed people over, hurt people's kids and kicked people's puppies.  None of those things is true.

My friend Sabrina is a wonderful, loving human being.  The pain she suffers on a daily basis would be enough to make some people curl up and die, but she presses on and tries to not let it get her down. 

She's very vocal about what she thinks and feels.  She calls it as she sees it, and I respect that immensely.  I'd rather have a friend who I can trust to tell it to me like it is rather than one who will smile sweetly to my face as they're reaching behind me to stab me in the back.  Yes, she can be abrasive, and something she can be downright vicious.....but she's always, always apologized when she's been in the wrong (and sometimes when she hasn't been wrong)

I've been on the receiving end of her venom.  She and I fell out and had a feud going on for a few months.  It got pretty ugly; there was talk of legal action and all kind of other nastiness.  It went on for a few months; each of us getting in a dig here and there.  We were both hurting - we gave a shit about each other, you see.  I truly cared for her, and being at odds with her hurt me.

On my birthday this year, I got a huge surprise.  She asked me to call a truce.  SHE asked ME.  People seem to forget that.  They don't want to see her as a person, they just want to see her as a bitch.  The fact that she called the truce, that she initiated the peace making process, doesn't jibe with the picture the have painted of her so they ignore it and cast it aside.  I'm not going to let that happen.  I refuse to stand by and watch people try and villify her; to blame her for things that are just not true.

My friend Sabrina bites when provoked, that much is true.  But, she's been there for me when other people haven't.  She knows things about me that nobody else knows, and she's never shared those things, even when things between us were at their worst.  She's a bit rough around the edges at times, but she's also incredibly intelligent, compassionate and loving. 

Sabrina is my friend, and I'm glad.