Is woman to woman affair cheating?
I can't believe he said that!
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OK, so I've had two very interesting awakening conversation over the weekend. One with my hubby and one with the kids while driving in the car on a family trip on Saturday. For now we'll discuss this cheating woman to woman thing. Because I can't believe my hubby said this.
Let me tell you how this conversation started. We were watching telly on Friday night and we were channel surfing and bumped into "Diary of an Affair" on the Style network. I stopped because I wanted to hear what this woman did and why she did it. (I saw a woman confessing so naturally I wanna know) Anyway, apparently she was having trouble with her husband of I don't know how many years. They weren't communicating, and lots of other stuff, and this led her into the arms of her best friend. I wasn't sure if her best friend was gay or not, but they happened to end up having sex. It was a great experience but she was mortified that it happened. She said it only happened once and eventually she and her friend broke off their friendship. She did everything to not let her hubby find out. They patch things back together but he noticed her friend didn’t' come around anymore and kept asking her about it. When he saw them together and saw that something was going on he got the confession out of her. He was pissed! Pissed! My hubby's reaction to that was "ah what's the big deal?" "It's a woman so it doesn’t' count".
I'm like, say what?! "What do you mean it wasn't cheating so it doesn't count?" I asked him. He said, "Well she had a sexual experience with another woman that's not cheating, there's no penis involved. Plus it wasn't a man." I said "Mikey (short for Michael), are you kidding me?!" "Why wouldn't you consider that cheating? She had sex outside of her marriage, she cheated! Although it's a woman, it's still cheating!"
"Well, it is but it's not", he said. "Her husband has nothing to worry about and it was only once and it's a woman not a man." I laughed at that. I said I couldn't believe what I was hearing. Then I asked him, "So, suppose it was a man cheating on his wife with another man, is that cheating?" Well he wouldn't even entertain that idea, but he said yes, penis involved, that's cheating! I said "Mikey, you do know that there are dildos and vibrators and such the like that women can use don't you?!" Suppose she found that better sex than with her husband? His response, "Well she didn’t and it only happened once so, nothing to it!"
My hubby is a very level-headed guy and pretty open-minded but this took the cake. I mentioned our conversation to a girlfriend and she agreed with me. Of course it was cheating!
So JU, what’s your opinion on this? Is woman to woman sex, one of them being married, cheating? Is having sexual contact once, not cheating?!
Of course I’m sure he knows that having sex outside of the marriage once is cheating. He’s just thinking this way because it was two women. Not the typical cheating woman with man. Plus, he has this fantasy about two women making out, like all men do! My girlfriend said her boyfriend had the same fantasy too. What is this thing with men? Why do they get so turned on by two women making out or having sex?!
Let me tell you how this conversation started. We were watching telly on Friday night and we were channel surfing and bumped into "Diary of an Affair" on the Style network. I stopped because I wanted to hear what this woman did and why she did it. (I saw a woman confessing so naturally I wanna know) Anyway, apparently she was having trouble with her husband of I don't know how many years. They weren't communicating, and lots of other stuff, and this led her into the arms of her best friend. I wasn't sure if her best friend was gay or not, but they happened to end up having sex. It was a great experience but she was mortified that it happened. She said it only happened once and eventually she and her friend broke off their friendship. She did everything to not let her hubby find out. They patch things back together but he noticed her friend didn’t' come around anymore and kept asking her about it. When he saw them together and saw that something was going on he got the confession out of her. He was pissed! Pissed! My hubby's reaction to that was "ah what's the big deal?" "It's a woman so it doesn’t' count".
I'm like, say what?! "What do you mean it wasn't cheating so it doesn't count?" I asked him. He said, "Well she had a sexual experience with another woman that's not cheating, there's no penis involved. Plus it wasn't a man." I said "Mikey (short for Michael), are you kidding me?!" "Why wouldn't you consider that cheating? She had sex outside of her marriage, she cheated! Although it's a woman, it's still cheating!"
"Well, it is but it's not", he said. "Her husband has nothing to worry about and it was only once and it's a woman not a man." I laughed at that. I said I couldn't believe what I was hearing. Then I asked him, "So, suppose it was a man cheating on his wife with another man, is that cheating?" Well he wouldn't even entertain that idea, but he said yes, penis involved, that's cheating! I said "Mikey, you do know that there are dildos and vibrators and such the like that women can use don't you?!" Suppose she found that better sex than with her husband? His response, "Well she didn’t and it only happened once so, nothing to it!"
My hubby is a very level-headed guy and pretty open-minded but this took the cake. I mentioned our conversation to a girlfriend and she agreed with me. Of course it was cheating!
So JU, what’s your opinion on this? Is woman to woman sex, one of them being married, cheating? Is having sexual contact once, not cheating?!
Of course I’m sure he knows that having sex outside of the marriage once is cheating. He’s just thinking this way because it was two women. Not the typical cheating woman with man. Plus, he has this fantasy about two women making out, like all men do! My girlfriend said her boyfriend had the same fantasy too. What is this thing with men? Why do they get so turned on by two women making out or having sex?!
