fatal lag

I am having fatal lag after 6hrs (or avery long time in to the map) in to any game.

here are my specs for my Potato (I mean laptop).

sins version 1.85 <- tried following the forum to update but not working ethier

intel 2.67 GHz i5 M480

Windows 10

8 GBs memory

256 GB hard drive SSD

intel HD graphics (shader 5.0 equivalent) 4 -5th gen

most recent drivers for my dated internals

task manager window at the time of lag none response states SIns was only using 16% of ram and 32 - 40% of my cpu

I have modded my fleet supply to make max fleet supply on large fleet setting 2500 or so (modifier of 1.75 I think)

im using only using E4x for 1.83 mod with the above change

tried LAAware didn't help