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Tears and doubts

from JoeUser Forums

Disclaimer - this isn't my swan song, the article in which I threaten to leave.  This is me expressing how I feel.....because I'm unhappy, and I don't know what to do.

I dunno if any of you saw, but some asshole came and left a few nasty comments on some of my articles this evening.  They gave themselves away; they proclaimed their affiliation with SPM, so it's plain that the vendetta against me isn't over.

And whilst I said that it didn't upset me - it did.  I don't like being called a fat c%$t, and I don't like being told that my children are ugly.  I don't like that someone would hate me so much they would like to see me taken hostage in Iraq and beheaded.

It's made me wonder if continuing to blog is in my best interests.  It's starting to cause me pain and stress...things that I don't enjoy and I don't need. 

The Buddha asked:  if you got shot by a poisoned arrow, would your first reaction be to ask who shot the arrow?  Would you ask which direction it came from, what kind of arrow it was, what kind of poison it was armed with...?  No.  You'd pull it out first, and ask questions later.  That's a bit how I feel about blogging right now.  The comments that have been made here and elsewhere are my virtual poisoned arrow. 

I said before that I didn't care....and that was true, in part.  I didn't.  But, I am human.  I can only take so much....and I'm reaching my limit.  I was reduced to tears earlier this evening, and I'm weepy even now.  I don't want to stop blogging; I get great enjoyment out of this site and the people who write here....I'm just torn.  Really, really torn.  My husband is pissed, highly upset that I'm taking this kind of crap, and wants me to stop blogging..... it hurts me to have to go against his wishes...I just don't know what to do.

That's my whine for this evening.  I think I'll go dry my tears and get some cheese to go with it.....

 

 

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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dont let that evil beast get you down. Fictional or not, his only purpose in life is to upset you, me and Phoenix.... that alone says what a sad case he is.
I'm sure whatever character he apears as in the future he will be banned like his former self. As for eliminating posts on your blogs... blacklist every character he come up with as well as limiting your blogs to registered user replys.
We love you too much to see you upset!
Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top

This is a bit off topic (depending on how you look at it), and knowing that SPM peeps hang out here, I am sure that it will show up as some brilliant attack on them in general even though it is general information, I will post it anyway because...well....I really don't care what small *ahem* minded boys think.

This is just a little course on how to find where a site is hosted from.  Some people use free sites, which have strict rules of conduct.  When a site breaks a rule, your first action should be to contact the site owner.  If this is not possible, or there is no response, you can go through the hosts dispute process.  This also works if somebody is warezing your programs (which is how I taught myself this process, and I have a few more tricks that I'm not going to share).  Anyway, this is a pretty good way of finding out what you want to know:

1) open up a dos window. (from start menu choose "run" then type in CMD)
2) type in tracert www.whatevertheURLis.com (insert real URL there)
3) it will tell you the IP address first, then the end will give you the IP address and sometimes a rough indicator of the ISP
4) Next type your new found IP into the following page: http://www.geobytes.com/IpLocator.htm?GetLocation
5) Once it locates it, start looking in the whois databases in the area below.  (ARIN is typically a good one to start with)
6) Now you know who owns the IP.  Look them up online and find their "report abuse" or whatever email and email them proof of whatever it is that is egregious.

It might not get them shut down, as ISP's don't like to do that too much (unless you are a corporation that can sue them because of warez that they permit) but it gives you something to do and makes you feel better   It also doesn't do you much good if it's a larger website that's hosted at a co-lo and uses a few ISP's for bandwidth sharing, but those types of businesses are large and typically aren't the ones that you'll have problems with.

Well, that was my sharing of knowledge today.  Tune in next time for instructions on how to report trolls directly to JU authorities......

Sins of a Solar Empire II
Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm once again, not sure what is going on, but I won't probably look. I know that it can be hard to not let personal attacks get to you. And from the glimpses of things said here, I'd guess these attacks to not even be on a person level, but more grandiose, if that makes any sense. You know your own heart and soul. You know your own reasons. There was a time on here, when I actually had my sister look at the comments on my blog first, to see how bad they were. She looked at me and told me to stop letting others get my goat, to lock it up. And I did.
Never give others the contol of your power wand. It's hard. But you have the power.
Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hang in there and don't let them get to you too much. I can't imagine how hard it has been for you, but I hope that you are only stronger for it now. The remarks/comments/blogs made were completely... well, I'm not going to use the words that describe them correctly.

Always know that you have more friends here than there are idiots!
Reply #30 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am one of the ones that doesn't have a clue who SPM is, or why he would want to attck OUR dharma. Dharma, you are sweet, and very caring, and helped me a lot when I first joined JU a month ago.

If those....knaves; rascals; eaters of broken meats; base, proud, shallow, beggarly, three-suited,hundred-pound, filthy, worsted-stocking knaves;those lily-livered, action-taking knaves, whoresons,glass-gazing, super-serviceable finical rogues;one-trunk-inheriting slaves; ones that wouldst be a
bawd, in way of good service, and art nothing butthe composition of a knave, beggar, coward, pandar,and the sons and heir sof a mongrel bitch...as Shakespeare would say...think that they can destroy you, they are wrong. You are strong. You can get past this, and I know you will.
Reply #32 from JoeUser Forums Top

To all:


Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts....I'm not ignoring you, I promise...I'm sick.  I think I have the flu...I was up all night puking, I have horrible stomach cramps, a fever, a headache and I hurt all over.  I'll come back when I'm feeling better and answer you all individually...


In the meantime, let me say this:  I'm over it.  I'm bigger, better and stronger than all this shit.  I'm not leaving, I'm not quitting because then I'd be giving them what they wanted.  I'm staying, if for no other reason than to piss them off.  I'm also going to leave every nasty comment they make intact so that the rest of the community have the opportunity to see what assholes they truly are.


Ok, I have to go now....my bed somehow seems more inviting that a desk chair and computer screen...

Reply #33 from JoeUser Forums Top
You poor thing.  Hope you are feeling better quickly!  As you know, mommies aren't allowed to be sick
Reply #34 from JoeUser Forums Top
Get well soon dear dharma!!!
Reply #35 from JoeUser Forums Top
Get better soon Dharma, and have a good rest.
Reply #36 from JoeUser Forums Top
SPM... jeez. I saw the articles about jesus and I knew it was anti-dharma posts anyway. Just look at username.

Don't give up and let So-called SPM win!

Hmm I wonder if everyone in SPM site is same person? Or in least all attack posts in here? I wish I had administrator power in here.
Reply #37 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hmm I wonder if everyone in SPM site is same person?


All evil is SPM...he is Satan!
Reply #38 from JoeUser Forums Top

Ok, I'm feeling slightly more human now...I'm thinking it was a 24hr gastric bug - now I'm hoping that no-one else egts it!

Marcie, Citahellion, Raven, Island gurl, silver and jade, XX and chip: thank you.  I'm not going anywhere....thanks, in part, to you all.

P: I had a feeling that it would come to this, and I'm glad it was me and not someone else.  I'm too stubborn to give up and go away.  I might cry a bit and lick my wounds, but I'll always bounce back.  Part of me wants revenge.....I really, really want to be very public about retaliating.  That's not my style, though, so I'll just act like it didn't happen and press on.  I value my karma (yes, the admin too!!) too much to screw it up on lamers and morans. 

Karma....that was very interesting information, thank you very much!  I will look forward to the next installment....

Mano:  bet you didn't realize when you adopted me that you;d be getting all this hassle as well, did ya?! 

Thanks again for all the support and kind words.  I know that SPM and his posse lurk over here, hopefully they'll see this and see that we have a united community.  When you hurt one of us, you hurt us all.

Just for fun...this is my favorite smilie so far:



 

 

 

Reply #39 from JoeUser Forums Top


I wish I could do that tp SPM and spammers.
Reply #41 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm glad you're feeling better.
Reply #42 from JoeUser Forums Top
It's a late response, I know...wedding plans are overwhelming. I am really glad that you are feeling better in all aspects though!