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I just wanted to say...

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I just wanted to say...

from JoeUser Forums

....that there are people here who kick ass.

Who aren't afraid to be totally honest about themselves or their circumstances.

Who have no pretentions, or who put on airs-and-graces.

Who are able to see through the BS and cut to the truth.

Those are the people who make me want to keep blogging.

Then again.....

There are people here who will claim to be anything that fits their particular argument at the time.

Who refuse to provide any factual information to back up their claims whatsoever.

Who have come very close to being exposed in the web of deception they have created for themsleves.

Who refuse, time and again, to admit when they are mistaken, despite being factually proven to be wrong.

These are the people who make me want to stop blogging.  To throw in the towel, to say 'to hell with it all'.

 

There, I said it.

 

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Reply #51 from JoeUser Forums Top
And perhaps those who immediately went into defense mode when they read this article have a bit of a guilty conscience?


I for one have no guilty conscience about anything....I read and post on a variety of articles, written by a variety of people...and I write what I feel like writing on MY site....

I just think that too many people are giving too many others the power over their experience here...it's gonna be what YOU (each individual) make it. For me, it's fun, it's informative, and it's friends....the rest I just blow off and forget about.....I DON'T sit around and dwell on the bad points, because that is, in my opinion, counterproductive.
Reply #52 from JoeUser Forums Top

And perhaps those who immediately went into defense mode when they read this article have a bit of a guilty conscience?


Happens every single time I've written an article like this. 


Teresa, I try not to let things be counterproductive, but Little Whip accurately described what I'm talking about.  People are too chicken shit to take me on on MY turf, but they'll let it all loose on someone elses.  Wait, I take that back...someone DID bring it to me once, and was very spiteful and personal about doing so. 

Siege of Centauri
Reply #53 from JoeUser Forums Top
Teresa, I try not to let things be counterproductive, but Little Whip accurately described what I'm talking about. People are too chicken shit to take me on on MY turf, but they'll let it all loose on someone elses. Wait, I take that back...someone DID bring it to me once, and was very spiteful and personal about doing so.


So let them say it....does it change who YOU are. or how those who really know you think about you? Not bloody likely...so in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter, and sooner or later, it's going to come back and bite them in the ass.
Reply #54 from JoeUser Forums Top
OK...I neither want nor expect praise for each article I write. Sometimes I expect and welcome criticism because it makes me think differently. I still may think that my train of thought is the best one, but I at least get an opportunity to understand where the other side is coming from. To criticize me as a person though, and to follow me from thread to thread having a go at me - that's not acceptable, and that's what's been happening.


That is the work of an immature mind. I've only been on JU for about a week, but already I have encountered many people whose opinions radically differed from mine. Luckily, in almost every case they have attacked my position and not my person. I respect that, and I enjoy getting that perspective. But I have seen other persons attacked, and the instant response I get is to dismiss the attacker's opinions in all matters.

This article was my venting about that. I refuse to write articles naming names because I don't think that's fair. This site is incredibly popular, and I would hate for a newcomer to see my article about "so-and-so is a total idiot who can't argue a point to save their life"...much less have that article googled. So I keep my rantings nameless. If we were in the same room, would I name names? You betcha. But not here.


I think you have every right to vent, bitch, moan, whine, whatever. I believe that is one of the cathartic benefits of a blog. It allows you a release for the negative feelings that you may not get a chance to excise otherwise.

People talk about the benefit of a friend who is a good listener. Basically all that means is that someone is willing to listen. To provide a means for us to express our feelings externally.

That is a role that blogging can fulfill with great effect. But I think some people need to be better listeners.
Reply #55 from JoeUser Forums Top
I saw that too.  I'm not sure who he's classing as Maxwellian and who's a Moronite....but I'd rather be Moronite than Maxwellian anyday!
Reply #56 from JoeUser Forums Top
King of the Morons who are trying to Control this Site!


Shouldn't that be Queen?
Reply #57 from JoeUser Forums Top

I tried to be a part of it, back when it was funny.  It's not funny anymore.  It hasn't been funny for a while, because it got taken too far.


 


 


 

Reply #58 from JoeUser Forums Top
And perhaps those who immediately went into defense mode when they read this article have a bit of a guilty conscience?


AS far as I just checked through, I am the only person who went into defense mode LW... It wasn't even defense mode... it was criticism mode...

and just a little FYI - my conscience is as clear as day... a very clear day...

Not that I feel the need to defend myself... but you people continue to incinuate, and as long as you haven't named any names, I am going to assume you are talking about me!

thats all good, bad publicity is still publicity... let the Muggaz show roll on...

I think you should all listen to poetmom a bit more...

BAM!!!
Reply #59 from JoeUser Forums Top

Creating a bit of drama good for PR or something?


So, you get to criticise me for doing what you do?


thats all good, bad publicity is still publicity... let the Muggaz show roll on...


You know, I love you, Muggaz, and I'll be honest that it hurts me that you would think so little of me.  I'll say this for the last time...I never came out and called you a Nazi, or even implicated that you were one, and I think that's where all this animosity comes from.


I'm done talking about it.  I have a nice happy buzz on and I'm not going to ruin it.

Reply #60 from JoeUser Forums Top
The feeling is mutual Dharma...

It's just that making blanket incinuation's like this blog create the negative vibe we are feeling at the moment...

I really wish that you would have been straight up at the start and said someone was going out of their way in attempting to demean you... hopefully you know that I wouldn't stand for that...

BAM!!!
Reply #61 from JoeUser Forums Top

But had I done that I'd have been accused of flaming...so I can't really win, can I?


This article wasn't about you, I know from past experience (and this one) that I can be straight up with you....but there are other people here who don't have the presence of mind to be able to differentiate...dig?


I knitted Lexi a hat, btw.  I'll mail it if you want.

Reply #62 from JoeUser Forums Top
I knitted Lexi a hat, btw. I'll mail it if you want.


I told my sister... Thanks heaps Dharma, she has plenty of hats though! donate it to someone who needs it... the thought isn't lost though! and your generosity is appreciated

BAM!!!
Reply #63 from JoeUser Forums Top

Im tired of dancing around, trying to refer to general issues or types of bloggers without naming names, because inevitably someone who you werent even thinking about when you mention these things thinks the comments are directed at them, them alone, and them personally.


You know what, you're right.  Either way, I can't wain, so I may as well have one person pissed at me for flaming them as opposed to a whole bunch being pissed at me for thinking that I flamed them......


 

Reply #64 from JoeUser Forums Top

donate it to someone who needs it...


It'll go to the preemie unit at my local hospital.  How's she doing, btw?

Reply #65 from JoeUser Forums Top
You know what, you're right. Either way, I can't wain, so I may as well have one person pissed at me for flaming them as opposed to a whole bunch being pissed at me for thinking that I flamed them......


I think that is the best approach. That way there is no confusion. Your words will be interpreted as you intended. Let the listener decide for themself if your words will insult or upset, and let them deal with the results in their fashion. Regardless of the result you will have been true to yourself.
Reply #66 from JoeUser Forums Top
It'll go to the preemie unit at my local hospital. How's she doing, btw?


She is doing really well!!! I am the most chuffed uncle in the whole world!!! hehe... she is so tiny and cute!!!

My other sister who is pregnant had an Ultra sound the other day, and her baby is already bigger than Lexi, and she isn't due till October!!! We are going to have a boomer on our hands!!!

BAM!!!
Reply #67 from JoeUser Forums Top

We are going to have a boomer on our hands!!!


My Davey was over 9lbs and I had him naturally with no pain medication.  Tell your sister to ask for either an epidural or a lot of Demerol.......!!!

Reply #68 from JoeUser Forums Top
- she is looking forward to the Pethadine immensely!!! Thats about how big Finn (she has already decided upon that name) looks like he is going to be!!!

My poor sister is sooo tiny as well... oh well... I dont envy her!



BAM!!!
Reply #69 from JoeUser Forums Top
OMG and theyre organizing, too, over on Peteys thread......and i have personally been named King of the Morons who are trying to Control this Site!


Well, guess what? I've now officially been declared one of the morons and blacklisted from Pete's blog.....oh, the heartbreak of it all....so much for trying to stay neutral, I suppose!!!
Reply #70 from JoeUser Forums Top

I'm one of the morons as well, because I called him out for calling me a 'vile woman' and suggesting that he and Dave could have a blast with hookers and whores when we went to England (that was on the thread when we had found out we had just got denied orders there).


It's all such BS.


Finn...cool name.  Is that short for Finlay?

Reply #71 from JoeUser Forums Top
Finn...cool name. Is that short for Finlay?


Finnegan or some Irish crap like that... I have already decided his nick name is going to be Paddy the Potato boy... hehe...

I cant wait for that little tyke!!! It is a pretty cool name though huh?

BAM!!!
Reply #72 from JoeUser Forums Top
Finnegan or some Irish crap like that... I have already decided his nick name is going to be Paddy the Potato boy... hehe...


You are just SO mean! It is a neat name...and not one he'll have to share with many others his age, either, I'd wager. I always used to hate that fact that there were other Teresa's in my class at school, so we had to use our last initials to differentiate us....
Reply #73 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dharma your not really thinking about not blogging are you?
Reply #74 from JoeUser Forums Top

Dharma your not really thinking about not blogging are you?

Yes, I am.  Well, I was.  It's just not so much fun anymore.  I'm caught between a rock and a hard spot...I find it very cathartic, but incredibly frustrating at the same time.

 

Reply #75 from JoeUser Forums Top
This blog was one of my hardest efforts in self-control. I've been on vacation, checking JU once in a while, but not really responding to much...when I saw this, I was dying to jump in...it makes me sad when two of my favorite people around here aren't getting along. But, I finally listened to my better judgement, which told me that you were both mature to work it out...(I should listen to my better judgement more often--apparently, it's often right!)

But back to the topic--
I agree that there's been a lot of venom spewed around here lately, but I've also begun to realize that what I think is offensive and personal, others don't see that way. To me, telling someone "f#$ you" is about as personal as it gets, but to others, it doesn't have the same degree of negativity associated with it.

I look at it this way--I have different vocabularies depending on who I am dealing with. Words that I will not utter at work at work flow freely from my mouth when I'm sitting in the pub having a pint. (my mouth can rival that of any sailor out there--though I've tried to tame it a little! ) However, I view JU as a "work place vocabulary" environment, whereas many think of it as a pub vocabulary enviornment. I wouldn't think twice of telling a friend that she was being a mad eejit if she said something stupid at the pub, but I'd probably tell my boss something like "while that idea has some merit, let's consider this other position." The first is personal, but not meant that way, the second is constructive.

So, welcome to the JoeUser pub.

Of course, this theory relies on the idea that everyone here is actually good and decent at heart and that we are all friends. I'd like to believe so, but recently I've had a few moments of doubt.

Like someone else said, this is cyclical--the difference this time is that the site is bigger, there are more people, and the disagreements don't appear to be "among friends" like they were in the past.

So, after all that (sorry I rambled, I'm making up for time away!) it all boils down to minding your manners--which is a skill that is often forgotten in today's world!