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I just wanted to say...

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I just wanted to say...

from JoeUser Forums

....that there are people here who kick ass.

Who aren't afraid to be totally honest about themselves or their circumstances.

Who have no pretentions, or who put on airs-and-graces.

Who are able to see through the BS and cut to the truth.

Those are the people who make me want to keep blogging.

Then again.....

There are people here who will claim to be anything that fits their particular argument at the time.

Who refuse to provide any factual information to back up their claims whatsoever.

Who have come very close to being exposed in the web of deception they have created for themsleves.

Who refuse, time and again, to admit when they are mistaken, despite being factually proven to be wrong.

These are the people who make me want to stop blogging.  To throw in the towel, to say 'to hell with it all'.

 

There, I said it.

 

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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top
Muggaz- you are consistent only in that you regularly cycle through periods of solid writing and these apparent bouts with idiocy. maybe hormone theraphy would help?


If you think I care whether you think I am an idiot or not Greywar, you are sorely mistaken...

I sleep at night.... I am confident I am doing the right thing by myself... to bad if it's not right for every one else.... It's funny, you call me the ultimate thread hijacker, but that post was merely just to criticise me... nice.

Like i have said, the blogging community is cyclical... the bouts of idiocy will usually be brought about by a bout of something from someone else... and if i am an idiot for calling foul on bitching, then i am an idiot.

BAM!!!
Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top

and you go around saying these people are making me sick...


actually she named no one yet you assume that you know who is involved....

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Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
actually she named no one yet you assume that you know who is involved....


When have i assumed I know who is involved?

I know she is talking about someone within the community... I dont care who she is talking about...

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Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top

Either quit, or stop talking about it


Umm, hell no. This is my vent, my rant, and if I want to keep on ranting on my own blog then I will damn will do it.


As for celebrity...as I already pointed out, I never asked for that, nor do I walk around with the attitude of "I am Dharma, all must bow down and worship me".  I'm not afraid to admit that I'm human, that some of the things I do are fucked up.  I don't know where this idea of celebrity comes from, but to be honest, I don't like it.  It makes me feel like I have a standard to maintain, and I hate that, because it makes this, this blog, not fun anymore. 


As for you Muggaz, well, I could give a rat's ass what you find acceptable or not. 

Reply #30 from JoeUser Forums Top

and if i am an idiot for calling foul on bitching, then i am an idiot.


here is your own bitching article...

Reply #31 from JoeUser Forums Top

I know she is talking about someone within the community... I dont care who she is talking about...


Actually, I'm talking about more than one person.  There are a few people who fit the criteria.

Reply #32 from JoeUser Forums Top
here is your own bitching article...


I stand by it 100%

If you cant acknowledge the differing situations, I am not going to bother trying to explain it to you.

As for you Muggaz, well, I could give a rat's ass what you find acceptable or not.


Awesome... other people who read this blog might though...

BAM!!!
Reply #33 from JoeUser Forums Top

....that there are people here who kick ass.

Who aren't afraid to be totally honest about themselves or their circumstances.

Who have no pretentions, or who put on airs-and-graces.

Who are able to see through the BS and cut to the truth.

Those are the people who make me want to keep blogging.

Did you perhaps not read that part of the article?  Or are you ignoring it because it doesn't further your argument any?
Reply #34 from JoeUser Forums Top

Awesome... other people who read this blog might though...


And the people who I give a rat's ass about understand where I'm coming from.


 

Reply #35 from JoeUser Forums Top

If you cant acknowledge the differing situations, I am not going to bother trying to explain it to you.


yes in your case you were whinging on about how unfair it was to lose points due to moderation... a *very* serious article... massive differences indeed.

Reply #36 from JoeUser Forums Top
For the first time today, i actually found myself typing IN CAPS at someone and really wishing i could just reach through the screen and choke the shit out of them.


I didn't mean to evoke that response from you, LW
Reply #37 from JoeUser Forums Top
My apologies to both Dharma for hijacking her thread and to Muggaz for me being overly critical of his writing. I think this is a great example of someone lowering the overall tone fo the site. I just wish it was not me who was illustrating it in such a clear manner.
Reply #38 from JoeUser Forums Top
Did you perhaps not read that part of the article? Or are you ignoring it because it doesn't further your argument any?


Of course I read it Dharma

It doesn't fit in with my argument though.... I am more than happy for people to post articles of praise on other members of our community... if you want me to congratulate you on that part of the blog, then well done...

yes in your case you were whinging on about how unfair it was to lose points due to moderation... a *very* serious article... massive differences indeed.


- looks like that article was a waste of time... i didn't lose ponts because if moderation, i lost them because my opinions weren't in line with the people that trolled me... simple as that...

This isn't about me though Greywar...

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Reply #39 from JoeUser Forums Top

Don't apologize to me Greywar.  You weren't the one who hi-jacked the thread.


Errrmm....you didn't mean it was I who was lowering the tone of the site, did you?


 


 

Reply #40 from JoeUser Forums Top
Whatever happened to the noble thought that though there is disagreement, there is respect for the opposing view? If Dharma is speaking to stalking commentators that pick on a particular blogger for the mere thrill, then I agree with her.  
Reply #41 from JoeUser Forums Top
there is respect for the opposing view?


What, Steven? Like saying "you're not a blogger you're a flogger?" Yeah, that was real respectful. Nothing like the constructive criticism of "how do you live with your own nightmares?" Yep, you have the corner on respect, Steven. Portrait of the blogger as an insult comic, maybe?

Sorry to hijack your thread for a moment there, Dharma -- That was a long time coming. I hate it when people who hurl insults (especially on their first contact with a blogger) try to make pious statements about respect, peace, and harmony.
Reply #42 from JoeUser Forums Top
Muggaz, pal...

Props for the gatecrashing ability, but I dunno why you are feeling the need to here.

There's a serious amount of angst floating around lately. Threads like this that would have once passed unseen or uneventfully are now like blank canvases to take a dump on.

A little less fiber, maybe?
Reply #43 from JoeUser Forums Top
Props for the gatecrashing ability, but I dunno why you are feeling the need to here.


I didn't mean to gatecrash....

I was merely stating my opinion in this partiucular article... no hijacking was done...

If my opinion on everything is classed as gatecrashing, please everyone freaken blacklist me from your sites... My commentary is clearly not welcomed, however, because they are public forums, I will always excercise my right to critisize if i see fit..

This just happens to be one of the many occasions that I go against the common trend, and because of this, I am singled out as a trouble maker... What are the use of public forums if my right to criticise Darma's attitude is always turned back in my face?

I am not sorry that I have said anything, I firmly beleive in everything I have said... with just cause as well... Just the same as Dharma beleives in everything she said... If i were to write my own blog about anti-bitching, I would be 'playing the victim' as you guys so eloquently typecast me...

Just as i have my right to crtiticise Darma's attitude, you all have the right to criticise mine... I just dont think that attitudes presented in this thread are healthy for the JU community...

It's almost enough for me to keep to myself and not post any comments anywhere... but how boring would that make this place huh?

Alternatively, if you dont want any crtiticism at all, dont allow comments... people have to realise not everyone is going to agree with their statements and opinions... If you cant handle the criticism... dont allow it.

BAM!!!
Reply #44 from JoeUser Forums Top
Alternatively, if you dont want any crtiticism at all, dont allow comments... people have to realise not everyone is going to agree with their statements and opinions... If you cant handle the criticism... dont allow it.


Criticism is one thing; outright abuse of the author, another. Some people around here don't just criticize an element of a piece, they savage the author, their abilities, and their worth as an individual. I'm tired of accusations being hurled at individuals for simply speaking sincerely from their own hearts.

If criticism is so acceptable, Muggaz, then why not respect Dharma's ability to criticize the site? She offered as much praise as criticism. She was expressing that there are those who demean her as an individual, spoil the experience, and make her feel so bad she'd sometimes rather dump it altogether. Big time. That's a valid expression of her experience on this site (and mine as well).

Isn't your ire better expressed at those who demean your fellow bloggers? Those that demean their integrity, motives, worth, and make some of us feel like we don't belong or aren't worthy to be here? Those are the individuals ruining the community. Those are the individuals deserving of ire, rather than doubling the abuse upon the poor individual who dares speak out against it.
Reply #45 from JoeUser Forums Top

OK...I neither want nor expect praise for each article I write.  Sometimes I expect and welcome criticism because it makes me think differently. I still may think that my train of thought is the best one, but I at least get an opportunity to understand where the other side is coming from.  To criticize me as a person though, and to follow me from thread to thread having a go at me - that's not acceptable, and that's what's been happening.


This article was my venting about that.  I refuse to write articles naming names because I don't think that's fair.  This site is incredibly popular, and I would hate for a newcomer to see my article about "so-and-so is a total idiot who can't argue a point to save their life"...much less have that article googled.  So I keep my rantings nameless.  If we were in the same room, would I name names?  You betcha.  But not here.


 

Reply #46 from JoeUser Forums Top
If Dharma is speaking to stalking commentators that pick on a particular blogger for the mere thrill, then I agree with her.


So do I mate... that's what people are missing here...

All too quick to act on pre-determined mis-conceptions when it comes to me...

That wasn't the tone of the article though...

I went through the very phase that Darma is going through right now... it was mikimouse that said, if i am starting to think like that, then I am taking blogging too seriously... I think that may be the case in this situation as well...

I just dont let them get to me anymore... it looks like some other people would do well to learn that lesson, rather than whinge and incinuate... If I have a problem with Dharma, or anyone else for that matter, I am more than happy to have it out and work through it... By writing this article, Dharma basically bunched a whole heap of negative traits together, which I am sure every single blogger has been guilty at one point in time, hence creating a negative vibe within the community.

Right now I am getting the vibe that someone has been going out of their way to make Dharma angry... I wasn't to know this, and I dont assume as much... By all means, character attacks are not acceptable, and even though I may disagree with Dharma from time to time, I dont think her character should be attacked, the same as no one else's should be attacked. Not once in this article was it pointed out that Dharma felt demeaned by other bloggers... I would have thought Dharma was a bit stronger than that though... she has been around long enough not to let that crap get to her... well, I would have thought so anyway...

I am sorry If i have upset anyone, This is Dharma's blog, and she has a right to bitch, but it's on the public forums as well, and I have a right to call as I see it.

BAM!!!
Reply #47 from JoeUser Forums Top

Not once in this article was it pointed out that Dharma felt demeaned by other bloggers


I don't feel demeaned.  I feel that I can't go anywhere or say anything around here without a couple of people being on my tails having a go at me.  And it's not just me, it's other people as well.  I don't let what they say get to me personally, I don't sit in the corner and cry...but I'm tired of it.  Enough already. 


As for taking to too seriously...this is supposed to be fun.  It always was fun up until recently. Other bloggers and splitting as well.  Eric's gone, Sheyre and Jeremy went...I hope that this isn't the start of an exodous of people, the kind of people that made JU a fun and interesting place to be.


The lunatics are starting to run the asylum......

Reply #48 from JoeUser Forums Top
The lunatics are starting to run the asylum......


And, yet again, I will say that it's because they are being ALLOWED to do so...the more people who leave, the more those other people are given the power...and I'm sorry, but there is NO ONE on this site who is going to run me off or make me change the way I think, feel or write.....I am who I am, and if some don't like it, fine and dandy....that's not MY issue to deal with.....
Reply #49 from JoeUser Forums Top
As for taking to too seriously...this is supposed to be fun


Poetmom99...... I'm not empowering anyone by staying away, that choice is mine.
The quote sums it up. It used to be fun. Now it's not.

There's enough shit in the world already without having to put up with the verbal diarrhoea infecting these boards at the moment.
Until that abates considerably, consider me a very "casual visitor"

To clarify somewhat, I enjoy reading threads way more than I do posting them. I read for that enjoyment.
I read some threads,and am uplifted ~or my interest is raised. But then I click on a thread, and find it full of the stuff I described ......spirit dampened. You see what I mean?

Posts should be interesting, or funny, or educational.....whatever. Not a forum for back and forth childish stupidity.

Wreckless.
Reply #50 from JoeUser Forums Top
The quote sums it up. It used to be fun. Now it's not.


And it's not because you let what others write take away your enjoyment....you're giving them that power over you, whether you know it or not...[

quote]There's enough shit in the world already without having to put up with the verbal diarrhoea infecting these boards at the moment.

So don't read it, and if you do happen to read it, don't respond to it....move on to something else....