Women and Hair

When I was young, my mother cut my hair.  She had 2 styles.  Crew cut (hate it!) and Bowl cut (at least it was not a crew cut).  I remember going off to college and getting a girl to cut my hair, I actually could tell her how I wanted it! (Although I was clueless at the time).

Then came post College and I was not going to get a MOM cut!  So I was recommended to a stylist that was my mother's friend.  She was a professional!  But I did not know what she looked like, so I got another one (did not know it at the time) Brenda.  Want to know what Brenda looked like?  Dolly Parton and add 50 pounds.  I thought that was my mom's friend!

But she did a good job and I went to her for years.  Habit.  She knew how I liked to cut my hair.  I stopped when getting an appointment became an ordeal.  Since then, I have wandered from barber to barber, and frequent the places that do it right.  but in the last 5 years, I have probably had a dozen different "hair Stylists".  I am not a very loyal customer (but I do tip if they do it well).

Now take my wife (no, not literally!).  She has been going to a hair stylist for the last umpteen years.  This hair stylist is 45 miles away!  Does she switch now that gas is $3/gal?  not on your life!  She spends $20 in gas for her do!  I will say that either her hair is naturally beautiful (I think that is the truth) or her stylist is good.  But not that good! (I pay from $4-$10 per cut).

What is it with Women and their hair?  They have to have that one person who can do it right because they have been doing it right?  I think not.  I found out that many women can.  And some men.  But many don't either.  But hair grows, so even mistakes are short lived.

Not for women!  Hair is forever!  Oh well, I will write the check so she can have her hair dresser do it right.  She does have beautiful hair.

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Sounds like you've figured out a good system - I figure there are some things that you're just not allowed to mess with, and women and their hairstylists are one of them. They're almost like a visit to the psychiatrist, the person that they tell everything.

I don't envy hairstylists their job. Imagine being a camp counselor to hundreds! Count me out!

Now take my wife (no, not literally!).


Oh, shucks. I was excited there for a minute . . .
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I dunno what's up with women and their hair, but I guess I'm on the other side of things. I am a walking hair disaster. I have no earthly idea what to do with my hair, so most days I walk around town looking like I just rolled out of bed. I do look at other women with their perfect coiffes and indignantly think, "They're vain and they spend too much money on their hair and too much damn time in front of the mirror." But I'm probably just jealous.
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Now take my wife (no, not literally!).


Oh, shucks. I was excited there for a minute . . .

I know you are young, but that was an old Milton Berle joke.  Glad you figured it out!

Sounds like you've figured out a good system - I figure there are some things that you're just not allowed to mess with, and women and their hairstylists are one of them. They're almost like a visit to the psychiatrist, the person that they tell everything.

Yoda says "You are wise jedi!  Uh hmm!  Force, powerful with you it is."

Glad you learned early!

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I dunno what's up with women and their hair, but I guess I'm on the other side of things. I am a walking hair disaster. I have no earthly idea what to do with my hair, so most days I walk around town looking like I just rolled out of bed. I do look at other women with their perfect coiffes and indignantly think, "They're vain and they spend too much money on their hair and too much damn time in front of the mirror." But I'm probably just jealous.

I know about them, but my wife is not like that.  No fancy doos.  Just a hair carer?  Ah well, it is not like it is going to bust her.  But I find it amusing.  Her hair is naturally beautiful!  I bet yours is too!

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I'm glad your wife is a looker without being vain about it

And no, my hair really isn't beautiful. Those days are gone. No worries though.
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P.S. I guarantee you that I save my husband hundreds of dollars a year by not wearing makeup or doing my hair. He doesn't pay much attention to anything above my neck anyway

Bet he does!

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OK,
Hair is one of the few things I actually have some control over. It may be a little greyer, receding, and not quite as thick, but I control the manner in which it is presented!!

In the last 5 years, I've had it long, real short, and presently a conservative off the collar short cut. facial hair has taken the same path...beard, no beard, mustached, presently clean-shaven.

Now, to maintain my various stylistic variations there has been only one lady to touch my head for the last 10 years..appointments are required, and the cost can run as much as $30.00...but so worth it!

She trims the beard, hedges down the eyebrows, bushhogs the ears, wash, rinse, repeat...and never uses clippers!

Even got upsold on a pedicure one day while waiting...OOOOOoooo so good......

My wife, on the other hand, has the most perfectly curly hair known to man. When we first met, she'd spend hours straightening out those gorgeous curls ( smelled like burning hair in the bathroom, and she went thru hairbrushes like disposable diapers in a Day care center.....

I talked her into letting it go, she now gets a trim every once in a while, but she's real low maintainance, at least hair-wise....
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My hair is straight and thin, but I have lots of it....lucky for me straight hair is in.....nothing to do with it....just wish bangs would come back because I hate the long ones women wear now days...some women look ok, but there are very few faces that can carry off no bangs and just all one length hair all the way round.

Mine is not one of them.
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My wife, on the other hand, has the most perfectly curly hair known to man.

No, the second one.  Mine is the first.  And who got my curly hair?  Just my number one son!

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Mine is not one of them.

We have seen your picture.  yours IS one of them!

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Ahhhhhhh, the hair and the sistahs, lol!

Yeah we know this is our number one weapon of mass distraction against the male gender This is why most of us like to spend hours and $$s on it.

Thinking about it, gee time to go the hairdresser now!
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My wife colours her hair herself but does see a hair dresser for the cuts and shapes. She has long naturally curly hair but has been making noises lately about getting it all cut off back short, more for convenience than anything else. On the other hand, I'm grey all over and keep it very short as the patent-balding has set in. My cuts are cheap as chips and will soon be cheaper as I will buy myself a pair of clippers and do it myself at home.
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And no, my hair really isn't beautiful. Those days are gone. No worries though


Dont' believe her for a sec! I have always been jealous of her hair!

We save around $200 a year by having me cut my husband's hair. I didn't start out very good but now I can do a fairly respectable high and tight (his choice, not mine)

I get my hair done all the time. Usually I barter a massage for a new hairstyle or color. Works out great if I have someone willing to swap who is any good. Unfortuantely with my former long locks, dye jobs or highlights were in the $100s and haircuts were pretty steep too. NOw that I have my light do, it wouldn't be as bad if I ahd to pay....but I'll still swap!
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I have such a hard time finding someone who does my hair the way I like it. What drives me crazy is when you tell them what you want, even show them pictures and they just do whatever they want anyway. Where I live there are two haircuts, Weatherford mom long and flippy and Weatherford mom short and flippy. I don't want either. I have my shoulder length with layers and long side swept bangs. I still haven't gotten used to the blonde highlights. I will probably keep them for the summer but in the fall they will be gone. Your hair is your crowing glory, you know. And it doesn't matter how pretty your face is, if you're having a bad hair day you just feel ugly. I do think that in general it matters much more to woman than men.
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Yeah we know this is our number one weapon of mass distraction against the male gender

That is an excellant way to put it!  Weapons of Mass Distraction.

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My cuts are cheap as chips and will soon be cheaper as I will buy myself a pair of clippers and do it myself at home.

You are going to cut your hair yourself?  That will be interesting to see.

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We save around $200 a year by having me cut my husband's hair. I didn't start out very good but now I can do a fairly respectable high and tight (his choice, not mine)

Well that shows you learned better than my mother did!  She never could cut hair right.  Her sister, my Aunt was great (but then she had 4 boys, my mother only had 3????).

I heard a few years ago that bowl cuts were actually in style.  Huh?????

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I have such a hard time finding someone who does my hair the way I like it. What drives me crazy is when you tell them what you want, even show them pictures and they just do whatever they want anyway.

I think that is exactly why my wife keeps going to this hairdresser.  She found one that she likes, so even tho we moved 45 miles away, she will continue to go to her.  It is a small price to pay, in actuallity, for her peace of mind.

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I used to spend a ton of money on my hair, then I got sick of it.  I have to have cuts that are easy to style (ie: fast) but still look good for work.  Since I get up at 5am, I can't have "high maintenance" hair.  Well, I got sick of paying the high bucks and still not being completely happy, so i went and got a $15 cut (which is amazingly cheap for a woman's cut around here) from Fantastic Sam's, and it's one of the few cuts that I have ever been complimented on.  Go figure.
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We have seen your picture. yours IS one of them!


HAHAHAHAHA....see I was wearing BANGS in that picture.....you really have no idea what I am talking about do you?

That's ok...my husband doesn't necessarily get it either.

This is what I think most women look best wearing....





This is the style that most women wear today...that I think looks bad on almost everyone...unless you have perfect skin and no wrinkles that is! Oh and a perfect size forehead!



See the difference in bangs now? The last photo is of a model with a blurred lense...I just don't think most women look good with that long stuff laying on the side of their faces...this woman had her hair and makeup done to perfection...and it looks nice..but most women I know don't have those luxuries...and they end up wearing their hair in a pony tail to get their bangs out of the face...which pulls it all away...and very few women have the face for that imo.
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I have stick straight hair. it's fine and plentiful. Curling is not styling, it's an Olympic event. All throughout high school I wore it one length at my shoulders. When I got into college, I decided to spice it up a bit and cut slanty bangs and started parting it on the side and I've grown it to the bottom of my shoulder blades. This works well because I still have the length that boys my age like, but I have more styling options with the bangs. Having long one length hair is cheap because you only need to trim it about 3 times a year. But washing it and drying it is a hassle! It takes me about an hour. I really want to spice things up and dye my hair blond and chop it to an ultra trendy look, but too many people have gushed over my naturally red and straight hair. So I guess I'm staying like this for now.
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so i went and got a $15 cut (which is amazingly cheap for a woman's cut around here) from Fantastic Sam's, and it's one of the few cuts that I have ever been complimented on. Go figure.

I go to the hair cuttery.  Get a different person each time.  3 out of 4 are good.  The other my wife hates even tho she has never met her.

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and it looks nice..but most women I know don't have those luxuries...and they end up wearing their hair in a pony tail to get their bangs out of the face...which pulls it all away...and very few women have the face for that imo.

You are just too harsh a critic.

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But washing it and drying it is a hassle! It takes me about an hour. I really want to spice things up and dye my hair blond and chop it to an ultra trendy look, but too many people have gushed over my naturally red and straight hair. So I guess I'm staying like this for now.

See there's the nutshell.  WOmen have so many options, they often cannot decide.  men have 2.  Long or short.  And excuse me if I think men with pony tails look stupid.  hey!  Some of my best friends have pony tails!  But most are not men.

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men have 2. Long or short. And excuse me if I think men with pony tails look stupid. hey! Some of my best friends have pony tails! But most are not men.


I don't like long hair at all on men. I don't like hair in general, no beards or excessively hairy backs please!