A Bun in the Oven

Baby #3 on the way

from JoeUser Forums

I recently surprised a few JUers with revealing my true identity.  I will probably surprise even more with this news, Brad and I are expecting a baby this Summer.  We are excited, and scared, but mostly excited.

I am just in the beginning of my 3rd month so I am in what most deem the "Too soon to tell people" part of pregnancy.  I have decided that is not a system that works for me.  I had two miscarriages between our two boys.  The first one everyone knew about and it was hard.  The second one we played it "safe", it was harder.

Early pregnancy can be rough in a lot of ways.  You worry that things are going okay.  Many women get quite sick (I don't thank goodness!).  Most women get hormonal.  I am definitely in that camp.  And most women get very fatigued in the first 3 months.  One book on pregnancy likened the work a woman's body does in the first 3 months to using the same amount of energy as hiking every day.  That explains why I am exhausted and cranky by 9:00 every night!

Part of the reason I decided to reveal who I was was I figured Brad and I would both start blogging about the pregnancy and then about the baby and it would be very obvious then.  I figured I would just cut to the chase.  It is the main thing on my mind these days for some reason so it would be torture to me to keep it a secret until it is "safe".

I am 35 so this time around the doctors are talking a lot more about genetic screening and testing.  I really don't feel any different than I did 5yrs ago.  I don't have any habits like smoking or drugs and I am generally a very healthy person.  I am not too worried but all the attention to my age does make it scarier than before.

So that's my news for now.  It is almost 9:30 so I have hit the wall for tonight.  I will keep you all posted (for those interested).

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
I read Brad's comment on one of Tova's thread, and thought "holy crap!"

Hehe.

Congratulations! I remember in the past you mentioning that you'd like to have another baby. I'm glad you're feeling well. I'm so excited for you!

What do the boys think about the news? Do they want a brother or a sister? (Haha, my boys want a little sister so she can be the girl character on video games!)
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
First of all Congratulations! What wonderful news.

Second, the no smoking, no drugs and no drinking is a big plus. I was 37 with my last son and that was a concern for my Dr.'s (actually I chose mid wives with my sons) but I was probably the healthiest I have ever been in my life. You sound like you live a pretty healthy lifestyle so that is a big deal.

So, with no sickness, another boy possibly!

You will be in my thoughts.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
So, with no sickness, another boy possibly!


Haha...I was soooo sick with both boys! Someone forgot to tell them about that "rule"...hehe.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulations! I love babies. They are so sweet and just don't stay little newborns long enough. Unfortunately my baby days are over but I get to play with other people's babies everyday. I hope you have a smooth pregnancy.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top

I was sick with both my boys.  So the rules doesn't apply to me either.

I bought the yarn for your baby blanket already - it's a very pretty yarn and will work for either a boy or a girl.  I'll wait to make the hat booties and mittens until I know whether you're having a boy or a girl (and if you dont know then I'll make them in red - no yellows or greens for the newest Wardell baby!).

I've been waiting ages for one of my friends to have a baby, and now 2 are expecting!

I'm so, so excited for you both!  Have you told your boys yet?

Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulations to you and your family!!

I was 35 when I delivered my last son. Don't sweat it. It means a few more tests, but I think today women are waiting longer to have kids and having them older. So Drs are "old hats" at dealing with it.

Again, congrats!
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulations to both of you! That is great news. I wish you the best through the whole process.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
Haha...I was soooo sick with both boys! Someone forgot to tell them about that "rule"...hehe.


was sick with both my boys. So the rules doesn't apply to me either.


Man, those boys weren't playing by the rules! LOL
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulations to the entire family, and best wishes for a very healthy and pleasant experience for everyone.

I look forward to continued good news and hope that will be the only kind of news we get to hear about everything
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yay! Congratulations to you and your whole family.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulations!!
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Mazel tov, Debbie and Brad! Wonderful news for a wonderful couple!
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top

MM shoots out prayer for 10 fingers 10 toes...health and beauty. congrats!!!
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
Wonderful news...best wishes to you and your family. We look forward to hearing all about your pregnancy "journey" (or should I call it an adventure?...lol) on your future blogs.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulations to you and Brad!  Like MM said, healthy and beautiful is the hope, but I think a Little girl would really floor Brad!  She would wrap him around her pinkie so fast!
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
congrats!
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top

 Wow!  Thanks everyone!  I wrote this before going to bed last night and had no idea Brad would feature it and I would get so many wonderful responses by the time I got up in the morning!  I will try to address as many of you comments as I can but if I don't mention yours specifically, please don't think I didn't appreciate it all the same.

TW:

I missed Brad's comment so I will have to go check that out.  Alex wants a boy  and Ryan wants a girl.  At least one of them will be happy

Kelly W:

Thanks for the words of encouragement!

Karen:

You are so awesome!  It is cool that you mentioned red because A) it is Alex's favorite color and B) We never did pastels with the other too.  Always preferred primaries.

MM:

A healthy baby is really all I'm praying for...well, that and an easy delivery

InBloom:

I will certainly be blogging about this adventure!  Each pregnancy is different.  I think it is helpful for others to hear about the different things others go through also. 

Dr. Guy:

I girl would definitely control Brad.  Even my niece and friends' daughters get to him so I know his own would, well, own him   We aren't banking on a girl since there are none in my husband's family as far back as they could trace.  Sure would be a pleasant surprise though.

Thanks all!  I just got Alex off to school so I think I will go back to bed for a little bit.  I get sleep in whenever I can because I know my days are numbered.  I don't know if you can bank sleep but I feel it is worth a try

Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh my goodness Congratulations!!! I have to admit after reading your last article, I had my suspicions ! Best of luck with your pregnancy!
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
I wrote this before going to bed last night and had no idea Brad would feature it and I would get so many wonderful responses by the time I got up in the morning!

Duh, of course Brad would feature it. He wants to get the word about about his offspring!

My heartiest congratulations, Debbie and Brad. Good luck through that first trimester. It's a doozy. Brad better be waiting on you hand and foot.

When will you post ultrasound images?

And how does one have an online baby shower?
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
When will you post ultrasound images?


As soon as we have some that look like anything

As for an online shower, I have no idea but what a nice thought!
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulation, good luck, and God bless (not necesarily in that order).
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
Duh, of course Brad would feature it. He wants to get the word about about his offspring!


I guess he beat me to the chase on Tova's blog.

Congratulation, good luck, and God bless (not necesarily in that order).


Thanks pseudo!
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
Congratulations! Baby number 3...that's great!


You know I always wondered about that to myself, and now the big reveal....Mrs. Brad! That's cool.

I had number 3 at age 35 too and my doctor wanted me to do the tests as well but I chose not to because I figured too that I didn't smoke or do anything to hurt my body and if the baby was other than normal when born then I'll still love her anyway and thank God she was!


Good luck with the pregnancy and that's great you don't get too sick, I did with all three.
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
I had number 3 at age 35 too and my doctor wanted me to do the tests


We don't intend to do any more testing than we did with the others. Nothing invasive anyway. I am up for bloodwork and ultrasounds. We will see how things look from there.

I have read also that if you have already had children by 35 you aren't at as high of a risk as if you were having your first.