“Monster” - defined in retrospect
Do your “tastes” make you one?
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Have you ever read Emperoroficecream's blog? He’s Little Whip’s hubby, Simon.
I didn’t always respond to his blogs because for one thing sometimes I don’t know what to say and I feel that I might come off sounding stupid, especially if I’m in a rush and I don’t have time to really think as I write and end up saying the wrong thing.
Lately I’ve been taking the time to read and respond to his blogs. He’s a good writer who always has a lot to say. Granted the subjects he writes about might seem too intense and way over the head if you want a quick read, but he, like his wife, writes well.
In one of his blogs he wrote that he’s not “normal” and might have a “monstrous nature”, because of the way he thinks or feels about things which is not the norm;
His words:
"...with my own perverse nature. I know myself to be a monster, and the ease with which I pass for a 'normal' man among my neighbours and co-workers affords me endless amusement. Do I suffer guilt because of my monstrous nature? No. The judgments I pass upon myself are aesthetic in nature (so it is as true of me as of any other man - that I have created my god, for whom I hunger in many ways, in my own image)."
My response:
"Why do you consider yourself as a "monster" because you think and feel this way? I know you mentioned because it is not "normal', but who is to say what is normal? Many people experience different things that gives them pleasure, whether it is of the flesh or "aesthetic in nature" as you put it. Is that not normal? Is that not being human? Is that not God's way? You might not want me to ask if it is not God's way but whose way would it be? How else do we know?
It is not that you're a monster, but rather it is your way of being, that which makes you, you and who you are, different and perhaps not so different from others. Of course your intellect and your open-mindnedness and your obviously...I'm trying to find the right word here......."superior", may not be the right word, but if you get what I'm trying to say.....way of thinking sets you apart from the norm. A lot of people see themselves in that way. What's to say that I don't have some perverse form of pleasure that only I know about, would that make me a monster? What I'm trying to get at is that your ways might just be normal, just like everyone else who enjoys something different."
[if you would like to read the blog and responses in it’s entirety: Link
As you read, I responded that I wouldn’t call him a monster just because his thoughts or what he liked was different and might not seem normal to me or others. After all, I might like something too that others may perceive as perverse. Who knows?
That got me thinking that there are some things that I like that might seem weird to others, whether its things of the flesh that gives me pleasure or something aesthetic (like he said in his response).
I like receiving and giving pleasure. What I do and how I do it is for me to know and for you to never know. Heehee
I do love having my feet massaged. There’s a difference in getting a foot rub from my kids who sometimes volunteer when they want to bribe me…hehee, kids! And there’s a major difference in having my feet massaged (notice, foot rub vs. massage!) by my hubby!
So getting my foot massaged doesn’t sound too weird, well, there are specifics to it that I won’t get into but let me just say I’m transported to another place afterwards! Is it a foot fetish….hmmm, perhaps?
I enjoy reading magazines. The weird thing about that though is that it has to be in mint condition, no dog ears, i.e., none of the pages twisted or watermarked no torn pages, no marks. It has to be crisp for me to read it. Now that’s weird isn’t it? Believe me, when you have two other females around you that like to look at magazines, you would want it that way too!
I won’t go into the other things I enjoy that might seem weird and make me different from you. However, my point is, just because we don’t like the same things and you might think differently about something than I do, doesn’t make you a monster.
You might be a bit of a pervert, but you’re definitely not a monster! LOL!…and don’t talk to me about perverts; there are perverts and there are perverts, if you know what I mean!
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! Thanks loads!
