My Husband didn't come home last night

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I waited up until 6am. Every time I saw a car light go across the ceiling, every time I heard a noise out in the hallway my heart leapt. But I was disappointed every time. I finally succumbed to sleep because I realized that I'm going to be one tired single mom when my baby wakes up. It's 10am now and I am a very sleepy single mom.

My husband graduated ALS yesterday, and to celebrate having a day off on Thursday, my husband went out with his new friends in his class. He left at 4pm Wednesday and I haven't heard from him since. He goes along with these people under the guise of being their designated driver, after all these years of swearing off drunks and anything associated with them. Over the course of his ALS class I think he's developed a liking toward these people, and he likes feeling needed by them. Driving them around when they dare not do so themselves.

Well, I'm guessing that since he was driving one of the drunkard's cars last night, he opted to retire at that guy's place until that guy sobered up enough to drive my hubby home. I'm hoping that's what's going on. A phone call or an email would've been courteous though.

Or he gave in to the pseudo-enticement of drinking and he's nursing a hangover at this moment.

Or he met a nice lady last night and decided to shag her. He's probably happier with her anyway.

Or the dreaded car accident. Let's hope that's not the case...
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Two words Sis Angela, Counse Ling.

It is great that you have the JU community to on which to vent your frustrations, and I am especially glad that I've been able to meet you because of JU. However, the wedge between you and your husband is far beyond the limits "venting" can help.

Please, go talk to your bishop, of not your bishop, your home teacher, Relief Society president or somebody. Ask your bishop if their is a Church Counselor in your area (a psychologist or psychiatrist with the specific calling of helping LDS members).

I hurt for you, your children and even your husband. Other than that, all I can offer are weak (at best) cyberhugs and the small advice above. I am praying for you also.

((((((((((((Angela)))))))))))))
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thanks Ted. Those are two wise words you offered. I've gone to the Bishop a handful of times and his counsel has been, in a nutshell, to work things out. The spirit says that to me too.

Anyway, my hubby is home now. My son & I went out and when we came home the hubby was back. He had the door open for us, and he darkened the bedroom for the baby who was asleep in my arms. That was nice. He was truly apologetic.

Turns out that
he opted to retire at that guy's place until that guy sobered up enough to drive my hubby home.
was accurate, apart from "that guy's place"...insert "that girl's place."

Hmmph.

So I vent, I vent, I vent...
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Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
That was me....but you know HW loves you too.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Or he met a nice lady last night and decided to shag her. He's probably happier with her anyway.


(NOTE: The following needs to be imagined in the voice of some black chick (don't worry about PCness I'm black) in the audience of RIcki Lake .)

Hey hey , ah ah, don't you be down on yo' self sister. When yo' man comes back you've gotta open up a can o' whoop ass on him. You be like "hey, don't you be dissin' me or I'm gonna kick yo' fat lazy ass out onna curb bitch. Where you be at all night huh? You be out carryin' on with some other ho. Shit, you better be straight with me boy or I'm gonna smack you upside yo' head!" And if he don't give you a straight answer you better dump that zero and get yourself a hero, kick that loser to the curb honey. *head bob/ finger point gesture*

Errr, I hope it wasn't a car accident or that's going to look mighty insensitive....good luck Angela, cheer up she'll be right mate. If he come sback though I suggest you voice your opinion on the matter very strongly - but hear his side first, he migt have been abducted by aliens or something - you never know.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Angela,

Definitely listen to Para's advice. One thing you have in the LDS faith is a church that's strongly dedicated to family...don't be afraid to use the resources at your disposal. You definitely should get some outside help here.

Hope everything goes well.