I'm so scared of ruining my perfect little boy

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My baby's eyes are so innocent. I want that to last for as long as possible. I know some adults who have that innocence in their eyes, but they've had to earn that back after losing it at some point. We all lose our innocence somewhere along the line. .

It just breaks my heart to think of my little boy ever getting tossed around and beaten up in this harsh world some day. I walk on eggshells to make life comfortable for him, but by doing this, I'm actually doing him quite a disservice. I need to toughen him up. Show him love, but show him I love him by letting him experience some of the harshness of the world.

All right, so he's barely 2 years old, so at this point I'm comfortable with letting his physical bumps and bruises suffice to teach him a bit about what the world has in store for him. It's a little early to be throwing him to the lions just yet, but it just hurts to know that he's going to get hurt in his lifetime. I don't want it to happen, but it's inevitable.

I'm going to pamper him and love him and cuddle him for as long as he'll let me. I'm his mommy after all. I don't need to be the one showing him how cruel the world is. The world will take care of that. I'm here to show him how wonderful the world can be. I love him so much..
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
"I don't need to be the one showing him how cruel the world is. The world will take care of that. I'm here to show him how wonderful the world can be"
Yes you do need to be the one to show him how cruel the world can be. If you don't explain it to him, he'll find that out on his own. You don't want that to happen.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
For crying out loud , hes only two , and your okay with subjecting him to pain already at an early age! Come on get real! Oh and one more thing, its your job as a mother to protect and love him , not let him learn by pain.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think you are right, Angela. It's not our job, at least now, to say "Look how horrible and cruel this world can be". It's our job to show our children the blessings life brings. It's also our job to help them understand when life does throw them around a bit and hurts them.

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Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
For crying out loud , hes only two , and your okay with subjecting him to pain already at an early age! Come on get real! Oh and one more thing, its your job as a mother to protect and love him , not let him learn by pain.


You're misunderstanding Angela's article Jason. She's saying she will protect her child, not harm him.

"I'm going to pamper him and love him and cuddle him for as long as he'll let me. I'm his mommy after all. I don't need to be the one showing him how cruel the world is. The world will take care of that. I'm here to show him how wonderful the world can be. I love him so much.."

She's going to keep protecting him from this big bad world for as long as she can. Until he goes out there to experience it for himself. That's all a parent can do.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
At Two, I think the world should still be nothing more than wonder and awe. He shouldn't have to fear anything more than the bottom of the candy dish or that "mean voice" of mommy's when he spilled his cherios again.

I do think that we cost our kids the ups of this life, if we try too hard to shelter them from the downs, but there is no reason to introduce the downs to them, before they get a chance to enjoy the ups. To kids, everything bad is "the end of the world", but it is only because of their wonder and awe of the world that makes "the end" seem so tragic. ;~D
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
I agree. The thing is... No matter how hard you try to protect your children they are GOING to make mistakes, and they are going to get hurt. I know I don't want MY kids to already know the things they know about life. And no matter what you tell them, they're still gonna do things that you KNOW will end up hurting them. Either emotional, or otherwise. All you can do is ride it out and be their shoulder. As far as a 2 year old... I don't think you reallly have TOO much to worry about. Love him... Hug him, kiss him. Be his mommy.
Now, when he gets older you'll find that no matter what you do, he's gonna learn things, and try things that are really objectionable. For example: My 15 year old daughter was tellin my 14 year old son that the girl he was "going out" with was cheating on him with her ex-boyfriend. And no matter whaat people said to him, he didn't believe it till we all went to the movies one evening and he saw them kissing each other in the arcade. It broke his heart and it made me feel so freakin' bad for him all I could do was hug him. (Though the inner child in me wanted to say "told you so" ) Point is... Be there for him always, show him you love him, and never be afraid to talk about ANYthing. I think as long as you do that in the long run, your baby will turn out juuust fine!
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank you all for your insightful comments. I'll give you "Insightfuls" all around. Except for Jason, who apparently read too quickly and commented too hastily.

This article I wrote didn't quite hit the nail on the head of what piers38's article brought to the front of my mind Link , but I tried...I ended up taking it on a tangent in a different direction. I feel more passionately about the points made in pier38's articleLink , than I do about what I wrote. So basically, what piers38 said, I just want to DITTO that, and I'm posting it here so that y'all can know, and I can have in writing for my own reference, thoughts I share with pier38 Link.