Man, Woman, and Sex in a relationship

from JoeUser Forums

What is it that makes a guy so constantly taken over by his sexual appetite?  Now let’s not start that old wife tale of  it’s because the women  are not interested in sex and this is why men never seem to be satisfied; because there are many women out there who do like it, admittedly some don’t.  But for the five who don’t, there are at least 5 or more who do. 

 

It doesn’t seem to matter how active a guy’s sex life is, he never seems to be getting enough sex!  Ask a man how many times he’s been sexually intimate with his wife or girl in one week, his answer will be different from his woman!  His count will be less, while hers will be more!  Now who is lying to whom?! 

 

From my own experience, my husband never gets that count right!  We have this conversation from time to time, especially if we are watching a program on relationship which usually starts this discussion (the last program was Dr. Phil’s show), and he would say one number and I would look at him as if he’s crazy! 

 

What exactly do you guys consider enough sex anyway?!  When I asked hubby this question during one of our discussions, I couldn’t get a definite answer!

 

I asked him if this is this what leads men to porn?  It doesn’t really take a lot to get some men excited! No insults intended here!  I mean, let’s face it; it’s not difficult for a man to show his excitement after all!   Is this why they happen to be constantly as they say “Up Periscope”!?  [I remember that terminology from a book I saw my dad reading a very long time ago! Yes, I knew it wasn’t a book for a child to read!]

 

A man’s sexual appetite seems to be constantly up front!  This is one of the reasons why some men say they stray, in other words, cheat, because they don’t get enough from the woman at home! What a poor excuse, that guy doesn’t belong in a relationship!

 

The other day on a television program I was watching, they ask the women, what is their fantasy?  Most of the women’s response was to have their man dominate them (in a good way!) sexually.  A man’s vision would probably be what a porn movie would be, grab woman, strip clothes, throw her on some surface and begin to screw as if their lives depended on it.  A woman’s vision would be being stroked to the height of arousal (in whatever foreplay method is used), and then screwing as if their lives depended on it, and lasting longer than five seconds!lol!

 

I wonder if the two people in a relationship will ever be on the same page when it comes to the sexual part of their relationship.  Personally speaking, there are good times of  “Well, hello honey!”; and there are those moments of “What happened”?; and there are those moments of “For the love of God stop grabbing me!”lol!   Yes, there are those infinite moments when we don’t see eye to eye but God bless the moments when we do!

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Reply #1 from Stardock Forums Top

Like most things with men the answer isn't too complicated. We're not that many generations out of survival mode from an evolutionary standpoint. Mortality rates were quite high back in the old days especially for the men. If all the women whom could bear children didn't the tribe would most likely die off so faithful relationships were not really possible. Men needed to pretty much impregnate at will for the tribe to stay strong. Some men are just dragging our feet a little on changing that but I think eventually men and women will all be on the same page when it comes to sex.

It reminds me of that old Indian joke that I vaguely remember where the old chief on the reservation looks around and sees all the men working hard shakes his head and says, "Before the white man came the men got to hunt, fish and screw all day and the women did all the work. How the white man stupid enough to think he can improve upon a system like that?"

Reply #2 from Stardock Forums Top

I listened to a podcast of a CBC Radio program called "The Best of Ideas" where the day's interview was a woman named Leonore Tiefer.  

She thinks that we live in a hyper-sexual culture now so that "people are taught to be highly desirous" and that sex has now become something that the "normal" person, particularly men,  needs a score card, needs to be bragged about in order to be successful sexual person.  She also contends that the whole thing about tenderness, skill, and technique are de-emphasized.

She used to work as a psychologist in a urology clinic helping men and their partner before/after surgeries or treatments.  Her ideas were really, really interesting.

I don't know if you can still get in on iTunes.  Last time I looked, there wasn't that program on the feed.  Let me know if you are interested in it.

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Reply #3 from Stardock Forums Top

I would have to say that most men I know (the majority of whom are in longterm, stable relationships) would like sex on a daily basis, and most women I know (ditto) would not.  But even with this discrepancy, many of the women find it upsetting if/when their man turns to the ever available, ever reliable internet.

Another 'being on the same page' issue is timing.  I have a friend whose husband wakes her up in the middle of the night for some loving.  If the husband ever did that to me, he'd be sleeping in a different house--sleep is a very serious thing to me!  For me, afternoons are the time--lazy and lovely and unrushed.  Of course that overlooks the whole 9-to-5, make a living thing.  How inconvenient.  The husband prefers the traditional just before sleeping, but our body clocks being different, that makes it definitely hit or miss.  But if/when it's a priority, you find your way to each other...or else you don't go into the computer room unannounced!

Reply #4 from Stardock Forums Top

think eventually men and women will all be on the same page when it comes to sex.

We had better be because the opposite only lead to disasterous relationships!

 

"Before the white man came the men got to hunt, fish and screw all day and the women did all the work. How the white man stupid enough to think he can improve upon a system like that?"

LOL!

She thinks that we live in a hyper-sexual culture now so that "people are taught to be highly desirous" and that sex has now become something that the "normal" person, particularly men, needs a score card, needs to be bragged about in order to be successful sexual person. She also contends that the whole thing about tenderness, skill, and technique are de-emphasized.

Those are important, tenderness, skill and technique!  I agree with her that people are taught to be desirous because some people find this hard to be.

 

 

I don't know if you can still get in on iTunes. Last time I looked, there wasn't that program on the feed. Let me know if you are interested in it.

It would be interesting to listen to! 

 

most men I know (the majority of whom are in longterm, stable relationships) would like sex on a daily basis,

Yes, and some women too!

 

Another 'being on the same page' issue is timing

This is the biggest issue for most people, and it is even harder when there are children around! :blush:

Reply #5 from Stardock Forums Top

I feel like I have to rape my husband, because he NEVER wants to.  I'm taking a hormone shot right now to be treated for endometreosis, and while I'm in virtual menopause, we're supposed to use a barrier method of birth control for the next six months.  So...even though we were away from home and there was no "barrier" available, I certainly didn't turn him down.  When he offers, I definitely don't say no.

It kinda sucks that we're virtual newlyweds and his desire isn't there at all.

Reply #6 from Stardock Forums Top

I feel like I have to rape my husband, because he NEVER wants to.

Maybe he needs to see someone to find out why his libido is so low? It's definitely not good for his prostrate.

Reply #7 from Stardock Forums Top

I only want sex when I'm awake.

Though sometimes when I'm sleeping too.

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top

Didja hear the one about the horny rooster? No? Well I'll tell ya...

Once upon a time there was this farmer who had a rooster that just COULDN'T get enough -the damn thing would screw every chicken and bird around for miles and miles and was STILL never satisfied. So one day the old farmer said "enough is enough" and he went to town and bought a thousand chickens. He bought them home and tossed 'em in the chicken coop with the horny rooster and said " now try 'n handle THAT!" But the next morning when the farmer went out to check around he found all one thousand of the new chicken screwed to death and over in the middle of the chicken run laid the poor rooster belly up. The farmer walked over to the rooster and said "heh, it FINALLY got to ya huh?" To which suddenly the rooster opened one eye and whispered "shhh! quiet! Buzzards!" and pointed to the sky...

Reply #9 from Stardock Forums Top

Though sometimes when I'm sleeping too.

You and every man out there! }:)

Didja hear the one about the horny rooster? No? Well I'll tell ya...
Once upon a time there was this farmer who had a rooster that just COULDN'T get enough -the damn thing would screw every chicken and bird around for miles and miles and was STILL never satisfied. So one day the old farmer said "enough is enough" and he went to town and bought a thousand chickens. He bought them home and tossed 'em in the chicken coop with the horny rooster and said " now try 'n handle THAT!" But the next morning when the farmer went out to check around he found all one thousand of the new chicken screwed to death and over in the middle of the chicken run laid the poor rooster belly up. The farmer walked over to the rooster and said "heh, it FINALLY got to ya huh?" To which suddenly the rooster opened one eye and whispered "shhh! quiet! Buzzards!" and pointed to the sky...

:rofl:   :rofl: :rofl:   OMG!!!!lol!