I'm too scared to play online... I think I'm pretty good, but I hate thinking that then getting ripped to shreds lolThe opponents eviscerating your fleets all had their own fleets eviscerated at one time, too. You just have to suck it up and pay your dues if you want to become a decent online player. I suspect that many if not most of the folks you'll meet online understand that many people are still learning and you'll also meet lots of other newbies, too.
You might not get ripped to shreds though. This one guy was about to own my home planet in the first game and when I screamed alliance he pulled everything back (I never fully trusted him though, so I kept my defenses pretty high). My second game culture was the proxy, until after 2 people left the last guy came at me with more than twice my fleet so I waved the white flag to save time.
The point is, you may actually be that good. It was my first time online and I was good enough to outplay a couple of people who play normally. Go out and try it, maybe you'll be able to get a laugh out of making to people hate each other by placing bounty on their heads and make it look like they're doing it. I did that during my first game right before a pirate raid and the two were going at it in chat. :LOL: