Assertiveness and the work place.
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Some years ago I ran into a situation; job related where a female was intimidating a co-worker by her actions and intonation of her voice. This was or was to be a team effort of collaboration, but someone forgot to tell her that there was no “I” in team. She was bound to get her point across with nothing less than bullying him.
Assertiveness is wonderful thing, especially for female who knows how to employ it effectively. Have you ever watched a salesman sell car to a couple, sell kitchen cabinets, house hold appliances or furniture to a couple? Who does he direct his conversation or his spiel to? It is not to the male but his female counterpart.
Why is this, if you have ever wondered why? Is it about conveying equality, don’t think so. It is how we as human beings are raised maybe not over the world, but in this country. Our father figure, if one is around goes to work and comes home; leaving the basic parenting tasks to the mother figure, even if she is gainfully employed. This includes the feeding, disciplining and the communication of most of the sensitive stuff with mom. The male figure can’t be slighted for this, since this is the way, he too was raised.
As young males we are taught never to piss off mom, since who would wash our cloths and cook for us. Certainly not dad, besides he isn’t as sensitive to our needs as mom. Unfortunately, we carry this into adulthood, to our spouses or significant others all the while, unknowingly, allowing our female to take control of our lives and our finances.
How do females learn these one sided tactics? Mom, of course, through example of how to manipulate dad with her wilds, and her passive aggressive tactics. She gains access to the treasury without firing a shot. She sets the structure for the house, teaching organizational skills. If she raises her voice to dad or her male counterpart, a compliant response can almost be expected. Unfortunately, the cycle continues through the generations.
A good example of this was the business man in a very responsible position and in his 50’s who told me that he had to get married a second time, because he couldn’t cook or do his own laundry. When told that he was a pathetic example of the male gender, he promptly left never to speak to me again.
This is why 95% of the male population suffers from stress when their female is upset. This is why sales people address the female counterpart. This is why there needs to be equality not for women, but for men. This is why men need to get their act together and not be so co-dependent on their female counter part.
Assertiveness is wonderful thing, especially for female who knows how to employ it effectively. Have you ever watched a salesman sell car to a couple, sell kitchen cabinets, house hold appliances or furniture to a couple? Who does he direct his conversation or his spiel to? It is not to the male but his female counterpart.
Why is this, if you have ever wondered why? Is it about conveying equality, don’t think so. It is how we as human beings are raised maybe not over the world, but in this country. Our father figure, if one is around goes to work and comes home; leaving the basic parenting tasks to the mother figure, even if she is gainfully employed. This includes the feeding, disciplining and the communication of most of the sensitive stuff with mom. The male figure can’t be slighted for this, since this is the way, he too was raised.
As young males we are taught never to piss off mom, since who would wash our cloths and cook for us. Certainly not dad, besides he isn’t as sensitive to our needs as mom. Unfortunately, we carry this into adulthood, to our spouses or significant others all the while, unknowingly, allowing our female to take control of our lives and our finances.
How do females learn these one sided tactics? Mom, of course, through example of how to manipulate dad with her wilds, and her passive aggressive tactics. She gains access to the treasury without firing a shot. She sets the structure for the house, teaching organizational skills. If she raises her voice to dad or her male counterpart, a compliant response can almost be expected. Unfortunately, the cycle continues through the generations.
A good example of this was the business man in a very responsible position and in his 50’s who told me that he had to get married a second time, because he couldn’t cook or do his own laundry. When told that he was a pathetic example of the male gender, he promptly left never to speak to me again.
This is why 95% of the male population suffers from stress when their female is upset. This is why sales people address the female counterpart. This is why there needs to be equality not for women, but for men. This is why men need to get their act together and not be so co-dependent on their female counter part.