Why Can't I Hate You?

A White Man's Dilemma

from JoeUser Forums
If I person is an ass; if a person is hurtful to others; if a person places the happiness and well-being of others below consideration; then this person is probably someone I will not like. And in many cases I would like to be able to tell this person, or tell the world, how I feel. But often that action is not socially acceptable.

Why? The answer is simple: I am a white heterosexual male middle-class American. And because of this I am not “allowed” to offer criticism to anyone who is not like me. If I do I am a racist, sexist, homophobe, or in some other manner a beast of discrimination.

If I speak out against the racial discrimination of Affirmative Action, then I am myself labeled a racist.

If I speak out in favor of Israel, then I am a racist.

If I speak out in favor of profiling at airports, then I am a racist.

If I speak out against women in combat, then I am a sexist.

If I speak out in favor of tighter immigration control, then I am a racist.

If I speak out against illegal immigrant amnesty, then I am a racist.

If I speak out against some asshat who happens to be black, gay, or female; then I am racist, homophobe, or sexist.

Oh how I long for the end of racism, sexism, and other forms of unfair discrimination. I just want to get to the point where I can hate someone for who they are without being accused of hating them for what they are.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
I feel you... Oh BTW.. I saw your picture on Dharma's "Show and Tell" article.. you're a cutie! do you want to see me? if so I can e-mail it cause my computer is dumb and won't show my pic on her article..

Ashlee
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Nothing wrong with speaking out. Just try to do it with a little class.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I understand completely where you are coming from CS Guy. However, hate is an ist/ism condition--including hate against ist/ism.

Something I have to remind myself of constantly.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't find that any of the above complaints have been curtailed or prohibited in the public sphere. Watch Fox News every once in a while and it starts to feel as if nothing else is said.

Anyone who calls you anything as all-encompassing, and non-specific, as racist, sexist or homophobic during an argument or discussion obviously can't argue, or feel incapable of arguing, with you about the issues at hand, so i probably wouldn't be paying much attention to them anyway.

Marco
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
I understand completely where you are coming from CS Guy. However, hate is an ist/ism condition--including hate against ist/ism.


Well, I'm using "hate" as a surrogate for the feelings I really have since I find it almost impossible to actually hate someone. I may pity them, I may feel anger towards them, I may even want them removed from our world (and this has always been a practical and unemotional decision)... but I almost never actually hate them.