Rude Children, grrr!
It's all about the discipline!
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I'm still not in the best of moods, but that should all be sorted tomorrow 
. If you can't beat them join them. I guess someone will be getting what they want very soon. Anywho, todays blog. I sorted my pc problems, yay! how frustrating I could get on the site but every page took about 20mins to load, it was connection problems due to bad weather, all is good now! It gave me time to do some television bonding, I swear they just feed us crap to watch and fools like me sit there, take it in, then come and blog about it! My sister considers me to be a bad influence already on Maddy Mae, and she's only seven months old! I thought I wouldn't get the title of 'bad influence' until she was like 2 or 3 years old at least, when I could teach her naughty things to say, and basically let her do the things Mummy doesn't let her do, haha! That wasn't to be, I'm already a bad influence, because I spoil her and teach her to bash her toys and so on! hehe, my sisters only playing really, she knows I completely adore my niece, and want the best for her, and if she turns into a fit throwing monster I'll probably be the least pleased out of all of us.
I don't have children so I'm not even going to pretend I know anything about discipling children, I'm sure when they are throwing a tantrum and kicking and screaming, all parents have their own way of dealing with it. I think when and if I ever do have children I'll turn out to be quite strict. I don't really want to be like that, because in many ways I'm a pretty laid back person, but I can't stand bad mannered children. Now at this point I'm talking mostly teenagers, obviously their behaviour at this age stems from when they were that three year old kicking and screaming on the floor, and how they were dealt with then. Teenagers know right and wrong, they know the right way to behave, it's not so long ago that I was one of these teenagers. I'm turning in to an old woman, I can feel this rant taking that direction. I just think the disrespect some children show their parents is disgusting. I don't say that lightly either. I think some parents are just as bad, and deserve this behaviour. The way I see some kids talking to their parents though, I would never ever dream of saying such things to my parents. Don't get me wrong, to this day, my parents still have the ability to annoy the hell out of me, I think it comes with being the youngest they still think they can treat you like the ten year old you will always be in their head. I always show them respect though, and that stretches to everyone I come across, they all deserve respect, it's just human decency, and ill mannered, unruley children, grrrrrr!
I watched a programme the other day called 'Bad lads army' where they basically took them back to when the army was compulsary and taught them discipline, and there was some harsh things in there. The staff were rude, cruel and mean to these boys but you know what? I actually found myself agreeing with it. Maybe I'm just a grumpy old witch, but I did. These boys went in there with criminal records, they believed in solving problems with their fists, and most were unemployed and lived off petty crime. This way of life taught them respect, taught them to live by rules, and the consequences of not living by these rules. I think that's the problem today, a lack of consequences, there's no middle ground, catching these children before they do something that is really serious. Children today are very socially aware, they know their rights, they know what they can get away with, they seem to stop being children alot faster and that's sad, it really is. When I was at school, I couldn't wait to grow up, have freedom, enjoy it, now I'm an adult (ha) I really want to be a kid again, grass is always greener.
The other programme I watched was 'super nanny' where this lady came to the house of parents who found their children far to unruley and taught them some rules to live by. I didn't really buy into this programme to much. It must be far different a stranger coming into your house and telling your child what to do, than the parent actually doing it themselves. Of course the child is going to react in a different manner, of course they won't play up in the same way, children are smart, they know what they can get away with who. This nanny did teach the parents how to deal with tantrums and such, and how to get this kid to calm down a bit, and it did seem to be pretty useful. I think most of it is down to the parents though, in some cases the parents do a great job and the kids still turn out to be rude and unruley, but in alot of cases good parenting leads to good kids. I can't define good parenting, it's all down to personal style, all kids are different and have to be dealt with in different ways, and in my opinion only their parents truely know what the best way is!
. If you can't beat them join them. I guess someone will be getting what they want very soon. Anywho, todays blog. I sorted my pc problems, yay! how frustrating I could get on the site but every page took about 20mins to load, it was connection problems due to bad weather, all is good now! It gave me time to do some television bonding, I swear they just feed us crap to watch and fools like me sit there, take it in, then come and blog about it! My sister considers me to be a bad influence already on Maddy Mae, and she's only seven months old! I thought I wouldn't get the title of 'bad influence' until she was like 2 or 3 years old at least, when I could teach her naughty things to say, and basically let her do the things Mummy doesn't let her do, haha! That wasn't to be, I'm already a bad influence, because I spoil her and teach her to bash her toys and so on! hehe, my sisters only playing really, she knows I completely adore my niece, and want the best for her, and if she turns into a fit throwing monster I'll probably be the least pleased out of all of us.I don't have children so I'm not even going to pretend I know anything about discipling children, I'm sure when they are throwing a tantrum and kicking and screaming, all parents have their own way of dealing with it. I think when and if I ever do have children I'll turn out to be quite strict. I don't really want to be like that, because in many ways I'm a pretty laid back person, but I can't stand bad mannered children. Now at this point I'm talking mostly teenagers, obviously their behaviour at this age stems from when they were that three year old kicking and screaming on the floor, and how they were dealt with then. Teenagers know right and wrong, they know the right way to behave, it's not so long ago that I was one of these teenagers. I'm turning in to an old woman, I can feel this rant taking that direction. I just think the disrespect some children show their parents is disgusting. I don't say that lightly either. I think some parents are just as bad, and deserve this behaviour. The way I see some kids talking to their parents though, I would never ever dream of saying such things to my parents. Don't get me wrong, to this day, my parents still have the ability to annoy the hell out of me, I think it comes with being the youngest they still think they can treat you like the ten year old you will always be in their head. I always show them respect though, and that stretches to everyone I come across, they all deserve respect, it's just human decency, and ill mannered, unruley children, grrrrrr!
I watched a programme the other day called 'Bad lads army' where they basically took them back to when the army was compulsary and taught them discipline, and there was some harsh things in there. The staff were rude, cruel and mean to these boys but you know what? I actually found myself agreeing with it. Maybe I'm just a grumpy old witch, but I did. These boys went in there with criminal records, they believed in solving problems with their fists, and most were unemployed and lived off petty crime. This way of life taught them respect, taught them to live by rules, and the consequences of not living by these rules. I think that's the problem today, a lack of consequences, there's no middle ground, catching these children before they do something that is really serious. Children today are very socially aware, they know their rights, they know what they can get away with, they seem to stop being children alot faster and that's sad, it really is. When I was at school, I couldn't wait to grow up, have freedom, enjoy it, now I'm an adult (ha) I really want to be a kid again, grass is always greener.
The other programme I watched was 'super nanny' where this lady came to the house of parents who found their children far to unruley and taught them some rules to live by. I didn't really buy into this programme to much. It must be far different a stranger coming into your house and telling your child what to do, than the parent actually doing it themselves. Of course the child is going to react in a different manner, of course they won't play up in the same way, children are smart, they know what they can get away with who. This nanny did teach the parents how to deal with tantrums and such, and how to get this kid to calm down a bit, and it did seem to be pretty useful. I think most of it is down to the parents though, in some cases the parents do a great job and the kids still turn out to be rude and unruley, but in alot of cases good parenting leads to good kids. I can't define good parenting, it's all down to personal style, all kids are different and have to be dealt with in different ways, and in my opinion only their parents truely know what the best way is!
...how i wish i could have seen his face, haha! I think I am a kid person, but when they are rude, and their parents don't seem to do anything about it, it really infuriates me, there are certain levels of basic respect and there's no excuse for not following them! How old are you're kids? If you don't mind me asking!
....I'm glad you liked the article, and thank you so much for the comment, I really feel bad for you. My Mum has recently become a grandma and she is enjoying all the things that you have said, the joy of the kids without all the extra crappy bits, leave that to the parents! You're daughters kids just sound plain rude, I'm sorry for saying that, but laughing at them when they do things like that is just totally out of order! It just encourages them, they think oooh I made Mummy laugh, i'll do that again! I think you are better off just keeping away from it for a while, that behaviour will soon come and bite your daughter on the bum when they get completely unruley, then she'll be running to you for advice. I hope you work things out, people say things in the heat of the moment that they don't mean, but it's not worth not speaking to each other over. Maybe it takes one of you to take the first step and swallow you're pride! Anyway I'm glad to have given you some hope, I thought i was just being a whinge bag, ha!