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Protecting Our Children

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In May of 2003, I was online and hanging out in chatrooms looking for people to talk to and if the opportunity arose, meet. Being a single mom of 2 kids, I didn't get out much with work and taking care of my home and them, so the Internet was my only real social life. I met someone in a nearby town and we hit it off in more ways than one. It wasn't long after that my children came to me and informed me that he had touched them inappropriately. First, it was my (then)6 year old, and when she divulged the horrible details, my oldest (then 7) came forward with her own horror story. Unlike some of the stories you hear where the mother goes hunting him down with a gun (believe me, it was on my mind, had I the weapon), my first instinct was to protect my girls. I immediately called the authorities and the necessary events took place. He was arrested and when he was questioned, he actually admitted to some of the abuse. It was and still is a nightmare for my children to be questioned like they were, and then examined by healthcare officials. Not to mention the memories they still have to battle because of this man. I still blame myself for choosing the Internet as a way to meet people. I no longer do so. My best friend and I are in a committed relationship now and my children and I are in another state with him. My point of telling our story is to make women and men aware of the possibility of child molesters being out there waiting for their next victims. I believe that this man, Christopher K. Kitch, was seeking women with children, as does my children's counselor, who, come to find out, has had clients who suffered at his hands before. Kitch is currently spending 6 years for Aggravated Criminal Sexual Assault in Graham Correctional Center for what he did to my children, and once he is unfortunately released, he will have to file as a sex offender per Illinois law for 10 years. This all happened in the state of Illinois. I left the state so that my children would have a chance to move on. So that we could start over. I don't believe for one second that this man has any rehabilitive potential.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
God bless you and your children. My now 14 yr old was molested by someone she should have been able to trust, as well, in a place where she should have been able to feel safe, so I know how difficult it can be. Keep on taking care of them, and loving them.

I also have to say that not every internet relationship turns out bad, though....my husband and I met online, and spent three years in a long distance relationship, with him traveling cross country twice a year or so, to spend time with me, and later with me and my children. We took it slow and made sure that we all could get along and trust each other before he moved here to be part of our family.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I met my best friend through my sister and she met him on the internet. I know that not everyone is 'bad' that you encounter. My fiance' is proof of that. As are other people I have had the honor of meeting. It just lightens my heart greatly that there are others who understand. Thank you so much for your posts!
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Pedophilia is not curable. No sentence can be long enough, except perhaps, the death sentence.


Sounds like a reasonable solution to me.

Growing up my mother tried very hard to raise my brothers and me as a "Proper Southern Gentleman." I'm not sure if it was that influence, my early admiration of the Arthurian Tales, or something else, but the idea of women or children being abused makes my blood boil.

I am generally a calm man, but I see no reason for such people to continue to exist in this world.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
A pedophile cannot change his sexual orientation any more than a homosexual can. It is not an illness, sexual desire is part of ones base nature, and as such, cannot be eliminated.


Exactly! As I don't believe in the death penalty, I can't embrace your idea of execution, but I think they should be locked away from society for the rest of their natural lives, so that no other children would be put at risk. I think it's too easy for them to play the game with the psychiatrists and counselors, say what the professionals want to hear, and then go right back to doing what they were doing...only taking even more precautions, to make sure they don't get caught again.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Some victims blot the memories out, and may suffer from various mental illnesses without knowing why.Some victims cannot put the memories aside, and suffer a lifetime of post traumatic stress disorder, or in the worst cases, dissociative behavior or multiple personalities.Some manage to deal with it, put it in the past, and move on with their lives.I spoke in passion and haste.....but im still not sure i spoke in error of my true feelings.


Believe me, I know....but what of those who were victims and then became the victimizers? Is it fair to punish them for something which has been brought on by a punishment they've already been suffering, through no fault of their own? Case in point...my daughter was molested by an older child, who had been molested herself. I chose not to press criminal charges against the other child, although I was given the option, because I felt she was already suffering enough.