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It's official! I'm now middle aged!

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It's official! I'm now middle aged!

from JoeUser Forums

It's the 16th in England as I wrtie this, which means that I am now officially 35....which, if you hold with the Biblical life span of 'three score years and ten' makes me middle aged.

I don't feel much different, to tell you the truth (not that I expected to feel any different). I don't feel old, middle aged, or even like I'm in my 30's.  In fact, I think I look better now than I did when I was a teenager..I think a lot of that is due to confidence.  I wasn't really sure of who I was or what I was about until I was in my late 20's, so I'm still relishing being 'me'. 

I am going to make a change though...a couple of changes, actually.  Some people aren't going to like them.  The people I give a rat's behind about already know I have the capacity to do this, and have seen me do it...but it's going to come as a hell of a shock to some folks.

I'm going to let my blunt side out to play.  I'm tired of trying to be tactful, of treading lightly around people and their 'issues', especially around here.  I seem to have been more tactful than truthful lately (except for the past few days) and that bothers me.  There's a time and a place for everything, and the time has come for Dharma-The-Blunt to come out and play. I wanted to say 'bitchy' but that term implies a certain amount of spite...and that's something I don't do.  So, if I seem a little ...umm...tactless in what I say and do in the next few weeks, you'll now know why.

The second change.....I'm think I'm going to start taking more of a back seat around here.  I've been doing so for a couple of days now, mainly because there's been so much bullshit and manipulation going on.  Don't think for a second that I'm being run off, that's not it at all...I just don't have anything tactful or sweet to say, so I've chosen to say nothing at all.  I suppose that now DTB (dharma the blunt) is around my decision to back off a little might not come to pass...but we'll see.  I guess what I'm trying to say is that some threads recently left me extremely frustrated and I don't think that blogging should have that effect on me.  It's supposed to be cathartic, a release...and recently it simply hasn't.

Anyway, I'm now 35.  Just wanted to let you know.

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Reply #26 from JoeUser Forums Top

BTW, Black Forest rocks! My fav is carrot.

I haven't ever made a carrot cake.....we don't eat it in England.  I looove my black forest tho...so do my kids.

They'll be sending ecards and calling their Dad on Father's Day this year.  We've all had to 'make do' this past year but will be making up for lost time next year!

Pseudo...I'm not getting any older than 35.  This is it for me. 

Thanks, Phoenix....

Reply #27 from JoeUser Forums Top
Happy Birthday, Dharma! And don't start with the middle-aged junk....I'll be 43 in just a couple of weeks, and I'm not middle-aged yet, so you can't be!

I think once you hit 40 you're supposed to count back to 29 then stay there


No way! I've worked hard to get to where I am, and I'm proud of it! So there!!

BTW, Black Forest rocks! My fav is carrot. I usually only have it once a year if that. My hubby's fav is cheesecake (the most difficult to make of course).


Fave cake is German chocolate...but I'm not a big cake person....My birthday cake for many, many years has been a "birthday watermelon"....advantages to being a July 5th baby!


Galactic Civilizations IV
Reply #28 from JoeUser Forums Top
I LOVE carrot cake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I used to make it and put grated cake on the icing as decoration - but I'm weird when it comes to food, ice-cream on hot buttered toast, vegemite & red frog sandwiches (also good is vegemite and redfrogs on a bagel and u melt the frogs in the microwave mmmmm) vegemite and cheese on french toast, vegemite and lettuce, vegemite and garlic bread or better garlic bread and honey, ham, honey, peanut butter and cheese sandwiches, mcdonalds fries and ice-cream and even better mcdonalds hash browns with oreo mcflurry.

Nick hates carrot cake so we never ever get it - I had a Mocha mud cake for my birthday OH they're the BEST!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy Birthday again Dharma
this is a song we sang at my old church - of course I'm substituting Jesus for you with Budha (is that right?)
Happy Birthday to You
Happy BIrthday to You
May Lord Budha be here
Every day of the year
Happy Birthday to You
Happy Birthday to You
and the best year you've ever had!!!!
Reply #29 from JoeUser Forums Top

Oh, trina!  First off, thanks for the birthday songs....secondly, did you eat 'normal' things when you were pregnant?  Vegemite and garlic bread I can understand....but hash browns and Mc flurrys?       That's an unusual combination to say the least!


 

Reply #30 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dharma that's all high-school stuff!!!!

When pregnant my weird thing was honey toast all the time, salt and vinegar chips (smiths only) and jacaranda ice-coffee.

I didn't have ANY McDonalds at all - especially not ice-cream - Nick read pregnancy books warning against stuff - I was never allowed to have Caesar salad because the dressing was egg mayonaise, McDonalds ice-cream was pig fat -- lysistrata etc - he was very careful about everything I ate while pregnant.
Plus in the later stages EVERYTHING gave me heartburn and made me sick
Reply #31 from JoeUser Forums Top

Hmm...I had a craving for brussel sprouts when I was pregnant with Davey, and with Jake it was ice.  With Shea it was tuna fish sandwiches with sweetcorn and onion on toasted sourdough bread. 

I go through phases with foods now....last week I was on a homemade potato salad kick, and the week before it was chilli cheese fries.  I've had a hankering for salad with red wine vinegrette dressing all day today...I might have to go indulge myself soon.....

Reply #32 from JoeUser Forums Top
yeah Ice was the only thing that didn't give me heartburn - plus Elana was born December 6 - that's Summer in Aus - and sunny QLD has the biggest extremes we only have 2 seasons summer and winter - no autumn or spring.

YUCK tuna "is this chicken or fish" and brussel sprouts (maybe if it was peas he'd eat them)

Nick considers himself a gourmet -- he likes to cook and you can't just have a pork chop and mashed potato no the chop has to be marinated in lemon juice and rosemary, or rubbed with wholegrain mustard or served with a pesto. And the potato can't just be mashed with butter, milk & S/P no - how about "crushed potatos with a little garlic and butter and some basil"
Sometimes I just crave something really boring like bangers & mash or steak and chips but he has to fiddle.
My mum cooks from packets - continetal just add x sauces etc and good snacks in my uni days were pasta packs ------ but we can't have them and if we do we can't just do it like it says on the pack.
He doens't let it be boring!

oh dear - sorry Dharma -- *smiles sheepishly* Happy Birthday
Reply #33 from JoeUser Forums Top
hehe i will be joining you in september, dharma. nothing wrong with 35 ... we're still fabulous women !!!!

happy brithday

mig XX
Reply #34 from JoeUser Forums Top

He has to 'tweak' everything, huh? hehe......I used to be like that.  These days I'm feeding finnicky kids, so it's easier to just make things everyone likes and not garnish or add stuff.  My pasta sauce comes from a jar, and my pork chops usually seasoned with garlic salt and pepper...if I marinade, it's out of a bottle or jar as well! 

Dave's bad for 'doctoring' foods...everything has to be really salty and garlicy...no wonder he has high blood pressure!

Reply #35 from JoeUser Forums Top

Nope, nothing wrong with being 35 at all.  I'm quite enjoying it, actually.  I want someone to ask me my age so I can say "i'm 35.  What's it to ya?" with a 'you may think i'm old but I can kick your ass' attitude. 

To be honest, I'm more comfortable with being this age than I was with being 25.

Reply #36 from JoeUser Forums Top
To be honest, I'm more comfortable with being this age than I was with being 25


cheers to that

mig XX
Reply #37 from JoeUser Forums Top

To be honest, I'm more comfortable with being this age than I was with being 25


I here ya!  I too feel so much more comfortable with who I am than ever.  The 30s have been the best!  I have a lot of foxy friends who are in their 40s and lovin' it too so the future really doesn't scare me.  It is all about the attitude and we know Dharma has that goin' for her


PS: You really should try carrot cake some time.  If you don't have a problem with walnuts you can buy one but I prefer to make my own sans the nuts.  I love the cream cheese frosting!  Can't wait for my bday now that I am thinking about the cake


Cheers to many more beautiful years cyber-sis

Reply #38 from JoeUser Forums Top

I too feel so much more comfortable with who I am than ever.

Amen to that! 

I'm going to make a carrot cake this weekend, I think.  You sold me with the walnuts and the cream cheese frosting.....

Reply #39 from JoeUser Forums Top
Carrot cake! Send me some!
Reply #40 from JoeUser Forums Top
I was just talking to my best friend - it's her 21st today (17th) and she just informed me she was never going to get any older - she's going to go backwards to 1 and then work her way back up.
I think she's nuts - but she's probably going to do it.

I worked it out by the time she's 21 again I'll be 61 (I have no problem with getting older) and her husband would be 62. She'll probably have grandchildren older then her.

She has 2 sons 3yrs and 5months and she says for her 3rd birthday (which will be my 39th and her sons 20th & 18th) she wants a McDonalds Hot wheels party )

On her 10th birthday I'll be 50 and her boys will be 31 and 29 -- she hasn't really thought it out very well.

But she'd try and get away with it for as long as she could --- apparently her great-grandmother turned 50 every year until she died and when she did they had to find her birth certificate to find out how old she really was

Rin won't get away with that with me around we all have to grow older!
Reply #41 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yes, it's me... showing up late to the party as usual.... It sounds like everything is going well, and I'm telling you---- YOU ARE NOT MIDDLE-AGED.... yet. I don't know when it happens, but it can't possibly happen at 35.
Happy Belated.
Lots of Love.
Nic.
Reply #42 from JoeUser Forums Top

Better late than never, Nic my love.........


Thanks, but I'm middle aged, and I don't care!  If I could, I would wear it like a badge upon my lapel, proclaiming to the world that I am 35 ....that I have made it thus far and 'my head is bloody, but unbow'd'.