I wanna be " Little Miss Popularity"

from JoeUser Forums
Damn how long do you have to be here to be part of the " in crowd"

This isn't directed at the few nice people I have met.

It is to the people who love you to comment on their blogs and sympathise with them but dont give a shit about commenting unless you are part of the " in crowd"

You start to feel you belong ...talk about something close to you ...who replies ...hmm the nice people.

Meanwhile the others are too busy kissing arse and sympathising about trivialities.

These are the people that welcome your comments but are too busy or too important or maybe just too full of FIGJAM for the rest.

So ..how do i become little miss popularity and part of the " in crowd " and do I want to?

Oops i got kinda personal.

Jess
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top

I hope you're not talking about me! 

It's never been my aim to be part of the 'in' crowd at JU.  I'm not even sure that I am part of the 'in' crowd.

I just respond to people if I have something to say.  If I don't respond, it's not because I'm being snobby.  I just don't have anything to add.

FIGJAM?  Nah, not me.

Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Its human tendency to want to be part of a group, to be loved, to be liked, to be heard. Those are instinctive tendencies that comes about because we are social creatures. Hence no man is an island.

I could not agree with you more when you subtlely say you want attention, tell me who would not!? I want that too but am careful not to crave for it. If it eludes you, something is probably wrong and do of course give yourself a character check.

Being popular does not come overnight, there has to be something about people that makes them popular. There are the good and of course the bad types of popularity. Popular because you are rich even if you have a questionable character is not good....no no!
Being popular because you are that goody two shoe, caring neighbour, or model student even if you might not be well-to-do sure makes you a better person. Even having positive attributes(character) might not make you popular these days where people's values are so warped. You however, would definitely count as my friend...not that i do not hang out with rich people. But that makes you popular in my eyes at least positively.

Just live life positively and do the best of your ability, trust me it is not really important to conform to the world or what people think about you. I ditched that idea a long while ago! Just be yourself.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hmmm Dharma ..I wasn't talking about you ..but I would be interested to know why you thought I was.

Jess
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hello there..I have been reading your stuff and I always like it, but I go through phases on commenting. Sometimes there is nothing more to say because it has been said. It is nice to hear good job though so good job!

P.S. I am ranked in the seventies so my comment might not help.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
TY Retro ..I think.

I don't really care what people think as long as you are true to yourself.

Jess
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
TY Kelly ...nice to hear your opinion anytime.

I understand ..I only say something ..when I have something to say

I am only ranked in the 60's

I like what you have to say too.

Jess
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top

Because I've been described as a 'heavy hitter' recently and I never considered myself to be one of those either.  That comment was made based on my ranking, and I find that people will base their opinion of me on my rank instead of what I write about.


To be honest, I'm starting to feel like I don't 'belong' around here much these days...and that comment wasn't intended to induce sympathy or cries of "oh, but you do!!".  It was just a statement of fact.


 

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
P.S. One time I made a comment on someones blog and I was basically saying "good job", I sincerely enjoyed the article but they came back and more or less singled me out for not being personal enough. I'm like,"What the?!" I don't spill my guts in the real world to just anyone so why would I do it here. So, I'm hesitant to comment sometimes now.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dharma ..ranks dont influence me, one way or the other.

I judge people on want I see.

I don't care if someone is royalty/president/prime minister/pope

I judge people on who they are.

Jess
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Don't let it bother you Kelly

That is their problem ..not yours

I find I just don't bother visiting certain peoples blogs.

Jess
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top

 I'm glad that you are rank-blind, Jess.  I don't take much notice of it myself, to be honest.


I find I just don't bother visiting certain peoples blogs.


I know all too well what you mean. 

Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
FIGJAM ... hehe ... i love you, jess ... smile, sister

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Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
Dharma ..i believe under all the bullshit people are people.

Some good ..some bad ..some downright nasty.

Respect is earned ..not given out because of a title or their perception of importance.

Jess
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Mig

That's all I have to say ...hehehe

Jess

btw ..love you too x
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't comment as often as I used to, only because I no longer have internet use at home and have a limited amount of time using public computers... having said that, I think it really takes awhile for new bloggers to attract attention to the 'older' bloggers. I know that you have been writing for a bit now, and it's great to have you here. I have really enjoyed reading.
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Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
I did'nt think there was an "in" crowd here really.... just a bunch of bloggers doin' what they do.

It doesn't matter who the "in" people are anyway. (again... if there is an in crowd)

I blog beacause I want to, and leave comments for the same reason. Points can take a flying leap ~right off the site for all I care about them.
I do have certain favourites that I always read, because there are some interesting/funny folks who blog. (yep, you too) I just don't always leave a comment.

Just keep blogging Jess, and don't worry about "fitting in".... coz you do.

Wreckless.
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top

Considering that people have said over and over that the admins are wrong about there being "cliques" I would have to say then that there is not an "in crowd" so don't expect to be part of it

Seriously, don't take comments or lack there of as  any sign of anything.  Just write what you want to write and comment on things that interest you.  With the numbers of articles generated per day, there is the very real possibility that many people won't even see your article unless they go to your blog.  It takes awhile before people decide to put you on their "rounds" of blogs to read.

And, about the "fitting in".  Do people really care if they "fit in" or not?  I sure as heck am not going to write differently or state my views differently just to fit in.  If people don't like me, that's fine.  At least I know that the people who do like me actually like *me* and not some fake shell I have produced.

Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top

Jess:


If it's any consolation, I do read your blogs, but as of late, all of my commenting has been minimal.  Keep on writing, and if I think of anything profound to say, I'll contribute!


 

Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
I liked that article, was very honest and to the point! I've only recently discovered your blog, but I like your style of writing, and I will be checking regularly for updates . I know what you mean, on some blogs I just don't feel welcome, I don't know if that sounds silly or not, but that's the impression I get, I have a select few that I read on a regular basis, and there are some wicked writers here, but I don't always have anything interesting to say as a comment, hmm, as you may have noticed, hehe! In my opinion, you don't become the 'in' crowd, you make the 'in' crowd, that's if there is one. Make it about your level, not theres, damn I hope I make sense! Take care x
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank you all for your kinds words.

Sally ..I agree there are some awesome writers on here.

And yes you made perfect sense.

Jess
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
Awww Jess... you have a heart of gold! dont worry about the n00bs who dont see/care about that!

I love ya - and at the end of the day, thats all that matters

BAM!!!
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think we should have gangs on JU... you know like them innercity gangs... yeah that would be sooooooooooo Cool... I would be like the leader of like ummm WestdiesJU styles yea werd bitch! You knwo that way at certains times at night you couldnt go to certain parts of JU cause you would get shot at.... or you could walk down the street.... werd... yeah yeah
Okay I guess maybe its only me and migs that gets this as a piece dripping with utter sarcasm... that and the fact that Dharma be feeling guilty... I mean if she didnt have anything to add then she wouldnt have proclamed her innocences... but hey that just MY thought...

Mark you trying to move in on my girl.... down boy down!



Adios...
Great article by the way babygirl it made me laugh...
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top

Controversy will create comments. Compare my non-controversial entries to ones in which I ridicule an entire group's beliefs, and you'll be known.

Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top
Ty Thomas

I did write this article tongue in cheek dipped in a touch of sarcasm.

But I received so many sincere and nice comments, that I was quite touched.

So ty to all.

Jess
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hey Jess, I have written a simular article a while back. Well not similar, but, I know I meant the same. hehehe. I understand what you are saying. It is hard to write somethings and sometimes you ARE looking for others input, not points or any of that, just someone letting you know that you have been heard.
I have made it clear to you that I enjoy the shit out of your mind and the way it works, so I stand before you happy to say...NA NA NANANA, she's not talking about MEEEEEE!!!!!!!