What advice do you wish someone had given to you at 13?
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I found a website where the same topic was being discussed and thought how funny and realistic some of the comments and advices were!
As many of you know, my daughter turns 18 in July and I've been doing my best to handle everything in the best way I know how. Like her new boyfriend, he wasn't a boyfriend yet, but he is now, and letting her have a bit more freedom.
My son also becomes a teenager in August, he will be 13. He's suddenly gotten a growth spurt and I took a good look at him, (not that I didn't know what he looked like!lol!) but he's changed a bit and I realise, you know, my baby is becoming a man, especially in his mannerism and behaviour! He's still into his games and animae and stuff like that. And he's quick to say, "mom, watch your language" when I use the four letter word, "shit", yea, terrible habit but one I use so often when I'm exasperated, it's becoming a habit!
So upon reading that blog over there on Yelp.com I wondered to myself if I should share this with both of them. Granted some of the comments are pretty off color, but they are a reality of life and I don't believe in hiding anything from my children that they need to know about. I have always discuss most things with them, whenever age appropriate and necessary. My son would proably go "aw mom, I already know all this!"
I thought back to my teen years and remembered my mom giving me a book when I turned 13 or maybe younger than that because I started my period at 12. It was everything I wanted to know about human sexuality and all that. It was a big step for her at the time to do that. Her mom didn't have the 'talk' because it wasn't done in those days. And I appreciated what she did to this day!
I know she did talk with my brothers, but with us girls, (I have two sisters) it was the book for me, and then I being the older and wiser sister, had the responsibility of grooming my younger siblings! I remembered the first time I had a book, a porno book, "Deep Throat" one of my girlfriends had given it to me to read!lol! It was shocking to me at the time, being a virgin and all. My mom found it and never gave it back to me! I was so embarrassed and couldn't look her in the face for a while!lol! But she took it in stride, never yelled at me or anything. Thx mom!
It is in the same vein that I am trying to raise my children, arming them with the knowledge they need to survive in this world of ours. So much have change since I was 13. Kids think differently and are more advanced in their knowledge of what life is all about!
Do you guys remember if anyone gave you advice at 13? What was it like? I know I asked about this about turning 18. I was curious because of the blog responses I read and it got me thinking!
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Some quotes from Yelp.com:
10/09/2006 Suge K. says:
ha! mark twain said it best
"When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years."
other than that? the lecture i gave my cousins - "i know you're going to do drugs, if you haven't already. but i want you to know that you probably won't do anything that i haven't done or that your parents haven't done. so talk to me, tell me what you're doing. and i will NEVER rat you out. and while we're talking about drugs, stay away from chemicals. smoke pot and eat mushrooms."
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"10/09/2006 Suge K. says
ooh - ralph, i gave the cousins that lecture too. especially the boy and all his friends. 'never trust a girl when she tells you she's on the pill or she hasn't slept with anyone. use a condom or you'll end up diseased or a daddy.'
and brenda, it was great advice - and it worked - especially considering tons of kids they went to school with ended up with drug problems, or dead from heroin overdoses."
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"10/09/2006 D. T. D. says:
No matter how often you do it, you will never, ever, ever go blind."
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Here's the link to that Website. Link
As many of you know, my daughter turns 18 in July and I've been doing my best to handle everything in the best way I know how. Like her new boyfriend, he wasn't a boyfriend yet, but he is now, and letting her have a bit more freedom.
My son also becomes a teenager in August, he will be 13. He's suddenly gotten a growth spurt and I took a good look at him, (not that I didn't know what he looked like!lol!) but he's changed a bit and I realise, you know, my baby is becoming a man, especially in his mannerism and behaviour! He's still into his games and animae and stuff like that. And he's quick to say, "mom, watch your language" when I use the four letter word, "shit", yea, terrible habit but one I use so often when I'm exasperated, it's becoming a habit!
So upon reading that blog over there on Yelp.com I wondered to myself if I should share this with both of them. Granted some of the comments are pretty off color, but they are a reality of life and I don't believe in hiding anything from my children that they need to know about. I have always discuss most things with them, whenever age appropriate and necessary. My son would proably go "aw mom, I already know all this!"
I thought back to my teen years and remembered my mom giving me a book when I turned 13 or maybe younger than that because I started my period at 12. It was everything I wanted to know about human sexuality and all that. It was a big step for her at the time to do that. Her mom didn't have the 'talk' because it wasn't done in those days. And I appreciated what she did to this day!
I know she did talk with my brothers, but with us girls, (I have two sisters) it was the book for me, and then I being the older and wiser sister, had the responsibility of grooming my younger siblings! I remembered the first time I had a book, a porno book, "Deep Throat" one of my girlfriends had given it to me to read!lol! It was shocking to me at the time, being a virgin and all. My mom found it and never gave it back to me! I was so embarrassed and couldn't look her in the face for a while!lol! But she took it in stride, never yelled at me or anything. Thx mom!
It is in the same vein that I am trying to raise my children, arming them with the knowledge they need to survive in this world of ours. So much have change since I was 13. Kids think differently and are more advanced in their knowledge of what life is all about!
Do you guys remember if anyone gave you advice at 13? What was it like? I know I asked about this about turning 18. I was curious because of the blog responses I read and it got me thinking!
________________________
Some quotes from Yelp.com:
10/09/2006 Suge K. says:
ha! mark twain said it best
"When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years."
other than that? the lecture i gave my cousins - "i know you're going to do drugs, if you haven't already. but i want you to know that you probably won't do anything that i haven't done or that your parents haven't done. so talk to me, tell me what you're doing. and i will NEVER rat you out. and while we're talking about drugs, stay away from chemicals. smoke pot and eat mushrooms."
_________________
"10/09/2006 Suge K. says
ooh - ralph, i gave the cousins that lecture too. especially the boy and all his friends. 'never trust a girl when she tells you she's on the pill or she hasn't slept with anyone. use a condom or you'll end up diseased or a daddy.'
and brenda, it was great advice - and it worked - especially considering tons of kids they went to school with ended up with drug problems, or dead from heroin overdoses."
____________________
"10/09/2006 D. T. D. says:
No matter how often you do it, you will never, ever, ever go blind."
__________________
Here's the link to that Website. Link
At 13 14 we think we know everything there is to know and we are invincible. 