Finally Notified

I'm sincerely sorry Brandie. Wished I had some comforting words.

Thanks, Joe.

This really hurts. And the first I heard of it was on the news this morning. My FRG refused to confirm or deny it until a few minutes ago so I spent all day turning it over in my head.

I hope she will be ok with him. Poor little Xavier is having a really hard time with it, too.

I'm with Shovel. I have nothing to offer but a "that sucks" an "I'm sorry" and a willing ear. Not worth much, but they're all yours.

I'm sorry. I understand how you feel and I only wish I could help.

I really wish that you, and every other military spouse and family, wasn't getting news like this.  The sacrifices you all (and the servicemembers themselves) have made are -- to borrow the term from the MasterCard commercials -- priceless and the debt that is owed to you all is huge.

I hope the time passes quickly and finds your loved one(s) safe for the duration.

I also hope the young ones in the family remember to be patient for the mother and try to cooperate more while their father is away.

SHE: Thank you.

It is helpful and comforting to have people willing to listen and sympathize. You guys are wonderful to me.

LH: I'm so sorry you're going through this too. How are your little ones taking the news?

When I picked the boys up from school, it was so eerie. Everyone was somber. Today is a bad day for a lot of people.

Terpfan: Thank you. My boys are good little guys and they are usually quick to care and pitch in when I need them. This is very hard on them, especially my oldest since he is now at that age where he is craving attention and guidance from his dad.

Tex, I'm sorry that you are going to be apart even longer than you thought. It really stinks.   



I agree that it's harder when they are older. When they are little they don't get how long six months or a year is, the bigger ones understand how long that is.

Shit, I'm so sorry mate. I don't think there is much more I can say. My best wishes go out to you and the family.

Kenny

Fuck, Tex... I really feel for you all. Love to you from Toni as well...

Big e-hugs from me. I wish I could do more!

I'm sorry to hear this Tex. My thoughts are with you.

Thanks everyone.

They hadn't even informed Adrian. I had to tell him over the phone.

Don't believe the spin that this makes deployments more fair or more predictable.

When Adrian comes home, he will have 3 months where he is safe and then we PCS (move). When he moves if that new unit is deploying, he WILL go again, and it won't matter that he's only been home 3 months.

And more predictable my ass. We all found out about this from the NEWS with NO ADVANCE notice.

This just sucks.

Oh, man this sucks--on so many levels. I'm so sorry -- I wish I could make it better (but you'll be shocked to learn that the DOD doesn't often (ever?) listen to my recommendations!).

I too hope this time passes quickly. You're in my thoughts.

My heart is with you and all in the same boat. Life Happens called us the other day when she found out, we all weep together...figuratively and literally. It does suck. For what it's worth, there are a lot of us out here who do care.

Tex, so sorry to hear this. Yeah, it does suck. Hope you, your boys, and your little girl make it through as best you can.

That's shit. You'll just have to make those 3 months count!

Thank you. I have to say, it is really awesome knowing so many people care.

Cacto: I think maybe I didn't explain myself well (not a exactly a rare occurence). He is not definitely going again after 3 months, home, but it CAN happen just because of the way things work (I so hope it doesn't. If it does you may see me on the news doing something insane).

The DOD is trying to emphasize how everyone will get 12 months at home between deployments to make this sound more palatable, but the reality is, they can't promise that.

I said this to lifehappens and it applies to you and yours as well:

I love you guys and if there's anything I can do to help, please ask.

This sux.

Sorry Tex.

Oh fuck.  I'm sorry.....it seems so futile, but it's all I can say.  I'm sorry....for you having to tough it out even longer, for Adrian having to miss his little girl's entire first year on this planet, for your boys having to be apart from their daddy.  It all sucks, and it shouldn't be happening.  I wish that the people who are making these decisions had to live like the soldiers they're making decisions for.  I wish that they were the ones being separated for too fucking long, that they were the ones missing years of their children's lives.  Maybe if they did that, they'd be more reluctant to make decisions like the ones they've made.

I wish that my wishes could come true, because if they could....well, Isabella would be getting to know her daddy.  However, my wishes are just that - wishes. 

I'm sorry, and if there's anything I can do to help, let me know.

Sorry Tex. Strong as you seem, this is tough stuff.