Fetish Extravaganza

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Okay guys here goes. Apparently my friends thought it was really entertaining when I brought up this idea this weekend so I thought I'd push my luck and bounce it off you guys.

I hope it doesn't come as any shock that from time to time I've caught myself gazing at porn. I used to feel bad about this but everything in moderation right? I don't have any subscriptions and can't say that I've every spent a dollar on porn before...but hey, those occasional lonely rainy Saturdays may occasionally yield a Google image search or two. where the hell am I going with these confessions? Well, my interests in such media remain typically mild but as many know there is a market out there for many "unusual" interests, kinks, fetishes, etc.. I put unusual in quotes with the idea that "usual" may be a fairly relative term especially in relation to topics of a sexual nature....stick with me here.

I can understand why people like gazing at naked people because I can personally relate, I can even fathom why people like things that I personally cannot relate to as well...S&M, role play, etc.. But somewhere along the line someone discovered there was a enough of an interest in a particular fetish to create entire sections of porn sites, or even entire sites altogether based on.......feet.

WTF? Feet? I know a lot of people that find feet gross, or at best, neutral to their sexual realms and I find this fetish rather facinating. If someone, or a large group of someone's, find feet sexually arousing what's not to say that there are any number of other things that people hold onto as their fetish. "Common" fetishes (again with the quotes) might be leather, rubber, or as The Onion artilce suggested "Area Man has Naked Lady Fetish."

This led me to the question of whether or not I wish I had a foot fetish. How great would it be to have the object that hightened sexual arousal in you so readily available. Do men that have this fetish walk around the beach with hard-ons all day staring at naked feet paying no attention to the ass, breasts or rest of the body connected to the feet they are fetishizing? Or since feet are so common place does someone who has this fetish develop a certain tolerance to this. Anyone with any sexual history can relate to this, an example may be how the first time you kiss someone the sexual excitement is incredibly intense, especially compared to the 10th or 100th time you kiss this person. It's not that it doesn't still turn you on, but regular encounters tend to diminish certain interests compared to the unexpected or new experiences.

All sarcasm aside, perhaps those who subscribe to a particular fetish who are reading this may be shaking their heads (the one connected to their neck) at this analysis...and if so I hope they will explain it to me because I really don't get it. I do wish I was more sexually adventureous, and I think the first part of this is probably achieving a better understanding of what else is going on out there that I might be ignorant of.

Is there any particular thing out there that does it for you. those who answer "good music" "wine" or "candles," need not respond.

- SexspeckTed

PS - there may be a follow up to this, but it's enough of an unrelated subject to warrant a second entry. Have a good week everyone.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't think this counts as unusual! (I do however like feet. But not with a fetish. I just really like them. They're great.) I like freckles. And red-headed guys are so attractive. A good-looking red-headed guy can beat out a tall-dark guy anyday in my book. And lips. I don't know if this is common, but I can get lost just staring at a guy's lips as he talks if I'm into him. I still do that with my guy. Just stare at his lips as he talks. He's got really nice lips... I don't think that's what you're looking for, Ted. Sorry. It's all I got! (Besides intellegence being a real turn on. Those academic guys -- whoo!) I'm such a dork.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I have a lingerie fetish... which is to say that I love when my lady wears it to bed... sometimes I don't even remove it all the way if you know what I mean...

but I prob'ly shouldn't post things like that on the internet
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't know if this counts at all either, but I have a thing for a certain kind of voice. I can't describe it even, but when I hear it, I know it. I make every attempt to locate that speaker... I once hung out at a particular coffee shop for about a month, because I was just so entranced with this one man's voice. I wasn't that physically attracted to the rest of him, but I just loved hearing him talk. He turned out to be a bit of an idiot. However, even after I formed this opinion about him, he murmured something near my ear once, and I about lost it.

I am definitely not a foot fetishist... brrr...
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I have a thing for guys bellies. More specifically, the part of their belly that's below the belly button, where the 'treasure trail' starts. This is all dependent, of course, on the belly in question being in reasonable shape. You don't have to be sporting a 6 pack, but if your treasure trail is slapping against your thighs when you walk it's not going to do anything for me. My husband has a very nice belly, which I miss a LOT.

I've been driving myself crazy recently because I've been spending a lot of time at the pool and there's usually dudes there...so I've been getting my fill of naked bellies. It's hard to just look at all that glistening, wet flesh and....ok, I have to stop now.

I never understood the foot thing either.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
I can feel all of you on what you're saying here...but yeah, not exactly the parallels I was hoping to draw. We can justify a lot of our attraction to the body simply on the basis of primitive desires and instinct. But that doesn't explain why someone might develop a foot fetish or other type. In fact, I've been told that those who are drawn to rubber/latex as a key accessory to their sexuality are born not made. I find this difficult to understand. But I do believe that if we all were more free to express our sexual fantasies, thoughts, feelings, etc...a great deal more of individual sexual identity would result.

I'm a firm believer in the spectrum theory in terms of hetero/homo sexuality and I think this spectrum notion can be useful in other analogies as well. Essentially there need not be polarized differences between each identity...though this is a possibility....more than likely we all fall somewhere in between. The same is probably true of closeted fetishes and kinks. It would be limiting to suggest that the "mainstream" of us out there (myself included) are perfectly comfortable with the narrow sexual identities we've been given.

Did any of that makes sense?
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
not only did it not make sense, apparently it didn't make enough of an impression to generate any thoughts worth posting. Don't you hate it when you get all excited about your article and the chatter dies so quickly. Boo...(directed at everyone except for those with comments above)
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
i love this subject. i love this article. i should credit jeremyg, as his blog provided a link to this post.

i believe i know what you mean. i myself was, as a very young woman, subjected by my mother to years' of elocution lessons via a posh old english woman. she wished for my sister and myself to speak "the queens english", as opposed to speaking normally, as we did at the time. although my sister and myself had no speech "impediment", we were aurally assaulted by some of the worst examples of this in others ... repeatedly.

as this co-incided with the very beginning of my sexual awareness, i am convinced that it produced in me the predilection i have for men who are able to express their thoughts clearly, or speak beautifully. nothing on earth can get me like a man in charge of his mouth AND his mind. the man himself is irrelevant. if i hear/read a beautifully crafted point ... with all the inflections in the right place and no stupid misplaced thuggery ... i am a puddle. men can do more to me with their voices than they can with their hands. :)

ahem. and to think michael was worried that his comment was risque ;)

thanks, suspekted. great stuff.

mig. XX
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
sorry. x 2. mig.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
No worries about the double post, I'll just take it out...and thank you much for your thoughts. Especially this comment "no stupid misplaced thuggery" what a great line. A woman who can spit out lines like that could definitely have some sway with me.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
you're welcome, suspeckted.

i'm so flattered, i can't even spit out a good line

mig.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
In fact, I've been told that those who are drawn to rubber/latex as a key accessory to their sexuality are born not made. I find this difficult to understand.


Yeah, I do too. How can you be born into this way of feeling? I can understand how certain events or images experienced at a younger age can lead to imprinting sexual significance at a later date, but can't see how it is a biological response.

But I do believe that if we all were more free to express our sexual fantasies, thoughts, feelings, etc...a great deal more of individual sexual identity would result.


I think that, as a 30-something woman, I've been given a lot of freedom to talk about sex... However, until we've become more free in learning about different sexual practices, I would propose that it's still not going to be something that is easily discussed. I would put forth that people who have been raised with the basic education of sexual practices rarely feel free to go much further beyond those boundaries.

Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Freedom to talk about it is the first step, but I think we are very far away from experiencing a sexual utopia. Perhaps we're in the midst of another sexual revolution as the discussion of gay marriage is on the news daily. I think this will force parents to pay some attention to this in regards to what they tell their children about homosexuality and may lead to further discussions of sex that may have been ignored. It will be interesting to see what develops from this. However, we still seem to be very drawn to specific labels for sexual interests. In this regard we may be free to discuss these things, but eventually I think it still breaks down to what coercive forces eventually drive our behaviors. It seems behind closed doors a lot still goes unsaid in fear that someone will be turned off by such discussions........but I'm rambling, and I have the luxury of criticizing a lot without having much personal experience.

It is likely impossible to break down all boundaries and I've even questioned whether some sexual minorities would exist at all if we had this ultimate freedom. It is my ignorant impression that many of these "types" may be drawn to particular behaviors simply because they are generally sexually deviant in the eyes of mainstream societal rules.
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
I have a thing for guys bellies.
Hairy or baby smooth?
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top

Hairy or baby smooth?


Doesn't matter.  A little hair is nice, but I don't find the 'shag rug' look attractive at all.


I had to reschedule my swim time to early morning, there were just too many dudes there at lunch time and I was getting distracted. Isn't that pathetic?

Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
Fun question!

I love tattoos. I remember when I used to date a lot, every guy who broke my heart was some tattooed and pierced freak. Tattoos are sexy... and they're a bit rebellious, which makes them even more sexy. I'm really lucky that my guy has the sexiest tattoo.

Re: feet... I think that when you've tried everything, you have to try something new and different... feet are one thing, but sexy shoes I can understand.

Oh! dharmagrl - I had to think about it, but I totally get what you mean now about happy trails.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
Wait a minute...so what's this tattoo that's so sexy?
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top

I have tattoos...I don't know if guys think they're sexy or not.

My guy has 5 of them....every one of them sexy as hell.

So, Ted...are you hairy or baby-smooth?

Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm pretty clean on the chest naturally, but I only shave my face like once a week at best. I have a tattoo...well technically it's three and a few piercings.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top

What kind of tattoo? I have piercings too.  My tongue, nipples, belly button and somewhere else....


 


..where are yours?

Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
I got the ears and one nipple. My tattoo is a funny story that I may have to save for another entry. It's really simple: just three solid rectangles about a centimeter thick and a centimeter apart around my left calf. Lot's of people don't even know it's a tattoo at first...or don't really dig it....but hey, I didn't get it for other people.
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top

or don't really dig it....but hey, I didn't get it for other people.


I didn't get any of mine for other people.  I got all my piercings for ME, and I got all my tatts for ME. It sounds selfish, but hey, it's my body and I think I should be able to decorate it as I see fit, dig?  I have an ourobourous on my right upper deltoid, an infinity symbol on my left, a trinity knot on my upper back, another knot with a sunburst in the middle on my lower back, and some flowers on my left ankle.


So, when's the story about the tatt coming?  I'm intrigued....

Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
Not sure exactly when that one's release date is. But yeah, I got my nipple pierced as a birthday present to myself when I turned 18 and I didn't want to do anything permanent...at least not at that time. But yeah, it's almost a sense of relief to know you have the right to decorate your body in such a way. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves we have that control.