My 2 Cents About Blogs

from JoeUser Forums
I have seen a lot of advice given lately regarding what to/not to blog about, when to blog about it, blacklisting, etc. The way I see it, it is your web log. Write about whatever you want whenever you want. If you are going to be knowingly offensive, restrict your audience. The only "don't" is don't put another blogger's name in your title unless it is complimentary.

You might want to take advice from others if you are worried about points, but otherwise, do your own thing. Your blog is your house here on JU. You have to abide by the neighborhood bylaws but other than that, it's your call.

Now, commenting is another story. Since you are then the guest at someone else's house, you need to mind your manners. I tend to stay away from blogs of people I know set me off. It is kind of like blacklisting myself ;) I try to stick to the subject at hand but have been known to get caught up in defending people that I am in agreement with or people I think are being wrongly attacked. I try to be careful about it and know that the blogger has every right to delete anything I say that isn't on subject or simply rubs them the wrong way.

Well, that's my 2 cents at least. Blog on!
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
Your blog is your house

I like that analogy. Very, very true.

I too try to stay away from certain people who's opinions and responses I know will just set me off..unfortunately it's hard to do when they insist on visiting my 'house' and leaving snide comments there. That's where the blacklist feature comes into play. I see it as a way of saying in no uncertain terms "you're not welcome here if that's how you're going to behave".

Good article, Jill!
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
It is kind of like blacklisting myself


I do the same damned thing. There's a handful of blogs that I don't even visit anymore, because, in the end, I am just as tempted to leave a blogful of spew directed at the author. Not worth it. Nice one, Jill. I liked the fact that you didn't name names or point fingers; just managed to eloquently state your opinion.
Galactic Civilizations III
Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Very well said, Jill...and, like Dharma, I thought the "house" analogy was a good one. Something for all of us to think about as we begin another week, :)
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top

I really don't think that there are do's and don't's for blogging.  However, I really am getting tired of seeing the blogs that people make pointing out their views on other people then saying that they "don't mean to offend anyone".  It's kind of like stabbing somebody in the eye and saying "sorry if that hurt.  Don't get mad at me."  It seems like people are forgetting that there is an actual person behind the post.

And, yes, your blog is your house.  You have the right to say who come into that house.  And, others have the right to decide that you are not welcome in their house, too.

Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
"However, I really am getting tired of seeing the blogs that people make pointing out their views on other people then saying that they "don't mean to offend anyone"."

I'll second that one! If you have a problem with someone, handle it between the two of you, and don't drag the rest of the world into your disagreements or whatever. It seems so grade school to me! :(
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm glad you guys seem so comfortable in my "house"
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top

I'm glad you guys seem so comfortable in my "house"

Yeah, sorry about spilling coffee between the cushions in your couch

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm so comfortable I'm gonna take you couch home with me

I don't think you should apologize for it unless if you intended for it to not hurt. If you were poking someone in the eye to get something out than you probably should apologize when you hurt them. If you stab them to see the jelly flow from their eyes than maybe you should foget about apologizing.

ooo... cheese balls!!! thanks Jill!

Party at my house!!!

Capt. over and out!
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
People definitely need to be respectful in other people's blogs. I'll troll in mine (not that everything I say is trolling, but sometimes I love to post inflammatory articles painting the opposition as some wacky group of buffoons), but I won't ruin other people's blogs with silly behavior, unless it's the theme.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Since you are then the guest at someone else's house, you need to mind your manners


Jill~I love the quote. And I think this article is very timely and wise. I have learned so much as a result of what happened in my own recent situation. Was it fun? NO! It actually hurt a lot. But I guess sometimes a little pain is needed to teach us how to figure out a healthier approach in the future. I am so grateful to you for writing this. It is so positive and bright. And that's really what we need more of around here at JU (IMO). You have such a knack for saying the most profound things in the simplist language. I admire that about you a lot! Thanks again for this wonderfully insightful blog.

~MadPoet

P.S. And thank you for the kind comment you left me before. It really did help me to feel so much better about everything.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Madpoet you should not worry what a few people say to you on the Internet, It is better to be hated than loved old chap.
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Don't you mean feared?
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
Nice one, Jill. You pretty much summed up what it took me four months to learn. :-) Blogging should be fun, and your way to speak your mind to the world. When I was just going to points rack-up I would try to type like a newsweek editor and avoid personal posts or anything I viewed would be "disinteresting." But I woke up, and realized it wasn't a terrible burdon on my life if wasn't in the top 25.

And as far as commenting goes - agreed as well. As I was reading through blogs the other night and was encountering some of my - ahem - less favored writings, I kept to myself and said nothing. Best not to start any battles just quite yet I figure - at least not until I've built a fanbase to defend me. ^_^

--Syrrus
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
Great article Jill. Very good points as well. Hopefully it can serve as a reminder for us all to both be respectful and enjoy our own blogs.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
It seems so grade school to me!


It seems to me that most of these kinds of critical posts are written by the JoeUsers who are still in school. Just an observation.

-- B
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't agree with the house analogy. Because it would mean I might actually have to rethink the way I post.



~Buddha
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top


It seems to me that most of these kinds of critical posts are written by the JoeUsers who are still in school. Just an observation.


You're not the only one who's noticed that. Perhaps it's because the more...*ahem* senior writers among us realize what will come of criticism like that? Perhaps we have honed our social skills slightly more than those of us who are still learning?

Again, it all comes down to wisdom and experience....lessons learned.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
Thank you all for the wonderful comments. I didn't know whether this would be appreciated or just met with a lot of "duh!" type comments. I just thought that there were quite a few bloggers taking themselves too seriously and expecting others to blog the same way. I enjoy it most when I see more of a variety of blogs but if everyone decides to do a "what I think of JU bloggers" article on the same day, so be it.

CC: You can have the couch from the basement. It has been barfed on repeatedly

MP: You seem to be quite well liked here. Don't let it get to you. I think you have done the right thing for yourself. Best wishes.

Syrrus: I agree, it is wise to build a support system Thanks for the nice comments.

BlueDev: Thanks. I appreciate it.

Dan: Now we can't have you rethinking anything can we

Dharma: You always assist me in getting my points across. I thank you my fellow "senior".
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
You are very welcome, my *senior* cyber-friend.
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
One question... has the barf been cleaned up?

Capt. over and out!
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
Most definitely CC. Last instance was about a year ago. Luckily noone has barfed on furniture since we moved a year ago. Now carpet is a different subject

Enough about my real house. Back to my JU house. I truly appreciate my consistant guests and am always happy when new ones pop by. I have had a few enjoyable visits to other blogs today too.
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
Who wants to come to my 'house'? If you want cheese or milk I'm sorry to inform you that I'm all out. I just ran out right now!

My B-Day's in less than 3 months. You're all invited to give me presents. Llamas and loads of cash are always accepted.

Alright, Jill, you can talk about the figurative house now.

Capt. over and out!
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
lol this whole senior thing is really coming back to haunt me, isn't it... well, it's not like it was unexpected, right? :)

~Buddha