People can be so weird

I'm done tryng to understand

from JoeUser Forums
I like to think I know people, I have a good sense of who someone is almost all of the time; that's my 'thing'.

Of course I've been wrong before and it's always enlightening and a little disappointing when I am. I usually chalk it down to a lesson learn and move on.

I'm done trying to figure some people out. This trying to figure some people out isn't just about one, there are a few that I don't even want to bother to try figure out, not anymore.

I am an honest person, what I write and how I write and what I discuss, that's me. Not a fake, not a persona, just me.


If I like someone, I hang around them, but I don't expect to be everyone's friend or vice versa.

I'm up to my neck in disgust. I'm done trying t figure some people out, one minute they run hot, then they run cold, the topsy turvy of human emotions is over the top and I refuse to be pulled in anymore by people who don't have enough of a life to be online and wreaking havoc where they thread, even when they stick to themselves.


I'm not going to let people like these spoil my fun. But I'll definately distance myself because I'm not good at pretending in circumstances like this. LIfe's too short to have a chip on my shoulder and I'm too old for bs.


I'm not a drama queen but I think it's time I take a little break so I can calm down.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
It is so blatantly obvious you have written this in response to my taking offense to your open letter to young ladies FS. Your response indicated a loss of patience and temper.

You put up a blog that is going to create a mixed response to it and then you get upset when someone states that they find it offensive and narrow minded. You tell me that I am going to far because I am staing my opinion on how I read your letter? What is your blog - just for mindless drones that follow your happy happy lets agree with FS world, lets keep FS happy world?

If all you want on your blog site is a pat on the head and good chummy back patting every time you post you should not post articles that are going to create a mixed response if you cannot cope with someone stating her opinion that does not agree with your opinion.

I find you to be narrow minded. You on the other hand find me to be all over the place emotionally, topsy turvey etc. A drama queen, a chip on my shoulder, a persona and not at all honest.

Telling you I went bra less for 17 years or so is being an idiot either - perhaps you should practice what you tell other people to do - think before you type.

Whilst virtually everyone on this site finds you to be one of the nicest, friendliest people on JU - I most certainly do not. You are very clever at seeming nice all the time, but I know otherwise, because when it has come to me - you have never really held your patience, you oculd not even accept my apology to you gracefully, you had to criticise how I aoplogised - oh you are such a "gracious" person aren't you? I see through you FS, the others do not - I do, my experience of you is that you nothing more than a nasty person that hides under a veil of nice words.

I have not asked you to try and understand me or like me at any time. I shall certainly not be trying to like you or understand you. So take your syrup like "sweetness" and keep it away from me.

I will not bother visiting any more of your posts and please feel free not to visit mine.

And I am not an absolute idiot that I might be wrong in the facat this post was posted and aimed toward me - the last ascerbic remarks you made to me were "you are all over the place" so do not try to make out it was not posted about me.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

I am sorry for your heartache FS.  I know you wear your heart on your sleeve at most times, and I guess it was inevitable that eventually you would be dragged into the JU drama as well.  I respect both you and Jennifer, and hope that one day you can mend the hurts that have sprung up between you.

I understand the need for a respite.  Know that we will be here when you feel like returning.  I love reading your stuff, and look forward to more.

Elemental: Reforged
Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Forever,

Try to remember when someone "new" comes to the group they don't always see the whole blogger persona (and I say it that way because we know there are a few fakers. heh)

Just keep being yourself and eventually Jennifer, and whoever else is new and watching, will see your writing style and how you are truly a lady.

You know I love ya.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
jennifer: FS is one of the most kind-hearted, non-judgmental, genuine people on JU.

When you go off on her like you have, it only serves to make YOU look bad. It certainly won't win anyone to your cause.

You've ranted at her irrationally and attacked her personally and she has been nothing but restrained and kind in her dealings with you.

FS isn't the one who should take a break. Her presence here at JU is welcomed and appreciated. Perhaps you should take a break until you can see how nutty and hateful you're coming across?

Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Well if nobody else is going to say it, I'm gonna... Listen, Jennifer1, you don't know Serenity, you don't know how supportive she is of a disparate group of people her. I think your tone, both in this article and Serenity's 'Open Letter...' to be, at best, argumentative and at worst, it looked to me like you were spoiling for a fight. Then, to go further by inviting a 'flame fest' has me thinking you are probably the sort of person who constantly seeks attention by creating tension.

I think you probably need to slow down, take a little more time to get to know the community before you make any hasty judgements. Remember, people are here for a lot of different reasons. This is a community, after all.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hang in there FS. You know we luv ya. Don't climb into the clock tower.

Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
That's not Socrates, is it, Mason?

Hehe. Cute pic.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
FS--Like the others said, it's not you who needs to take a break. I was very impressed with the way that you handled yourself--but not in the least surprised. You've always been gracious, gentle, and compassionate in your dealings here.

Don't stay away long, ok?

That's not Socrates, is it, Mason?

I was wondering the same thing--adorable picture nonetheless.
Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
Me love donna with the kind heart.

Jennifer? you are way off base here.

Donna is one of the single most honest, kindess, real people here.
If hse is "all over" about anything that in itself shows you how real she is, opinion, feelings change all the time.

You are not making friends messing with forever.

You might want to reconsider.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
Hang in there FS. You know we luv ya. Don't climb into the clock tower.


Where do cats get these things from? I can't tell you how many times I've had to take away Fuzzy's AK-47.

Someday someone's going to figure out where all those missing dogs went.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
Jennifer,

I think maybe you should get to know Serenity a bit more and not judge her on that one article...she's one of the friendliest, nicest people on JU...

And Serenity, although we'll miss seeing you and reading your stuff, take all the time off you need. Breaks are always good.
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
Donna I will miss you as well. I hope it isn't for too long.

Jennifer1. People don't have this many friends going to bat for them for no reason.

Donna is a rare find and is well respected and loved. She earned it by her grace.
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
(((((((((((((Donna)))))))))))))

Hugs, hon. Sorry things got messy, hope you come back soon . . . and don't forget, my birthday is coming up soon . . .

Love ya!
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think your tone, both in this article and Serenity's 'Open Letter...' to be, at best, argumentative and at worst, it looked to me like you were spoiling for a fight. Then, to go further by inviting a 'flame fest' has me thinking you are probably the sort of person who constantly seeks attention by creating tension.


I disagree, I was stating my opinion honestlyon the original thread and on this thread I have been just as frank. I feel this way for the reasons I stated and i have told FS I will not visit her posts any longer which is fair enough.

I will not pretend I do not get the feeling I get from FS, I feel what I feel i.e. I am not allowed to express myself openly and honestly and be myself, she always crits me for being myself. So I have taken my right and said what I feel and will not be visiting her posts - this will avoid any ill feeling that may in future arise between us.

As for the flamefest - it was and still is an open invitation for all of you to open your mouths and say what you truly think of me if anything at all. The fest is for me not for FS.

Some good home truths have come out of the fest and I fully expect more honesty in fact I encourage it. Besides which FS posted this with the intention of festing me - hence I opened my own fest to fest me.

As for FS - well we must just agree to avoid one anothers posts that is the simplest route.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top
Jennifer, I'm honestly not in a 'war of words' with you. I also dont' have the inclination, still don't to go at it with you. The article I wrote wasn't all about you, some of it was about you, but not all of it. I wasn't inviting a flame, otherwise I would have done it openly. And if you must know, there has been some personal stuff about someone else in my daily life, who I cared about a lot. I'll share that another time.

You are entitled to your opinion and as it is in our good country, I appreciate everyone's right to free speech, opinion and whatever the heck they want to do. I would never get in the way of someone expressing their thoughts are opinions. The thing is how you do say, what you do imply and the reaction you expect the other person to have.

It's almost like sensationalising. We all do it sometimes, hey, why not eh, if it gets the reader to look their way. However, when that's all the person does it becomes apparent quite quickly what they're all about.

I have no problems with people who disagree with me, none whatsover, in fact I enjoy a good debate. I like learning something I had no idea about and if it leaves both parties enlighten, even better.

What I don't go in for is what's happening in this case. So, respectfully, I'll agree to stay away from you and you from me. The line is drawn in the sand. Let's do that shall we. Oh, and I'm not going to blacklist you. I've been through worse 'war' than this.



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Guys thank you from the bottom of my heart for being so gracious and for the nice things you said. I appreciate it very much and it really warms my heart, more than you know. It's been a harrowing day and I'm still a bit stressed.

Because of you, each of you, that's why I'm here and I'm grateful for it.
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
Oh M, I'm loving the picture! I can't believe you come up with these stuff!!
Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
Maso wrote:
I think your tone, both in this article and Serenity's 'Open Letter...' to be, at best, argumentative and at worst, it looked to me like you were spoiling for a fight.


Jennifer1 wrote:
I disagree, I was stating my opinion honestlyon the original thread


Okay, I went back to your original response and I just don't see it. You said

My my you do sound like a square school ma'am FS


and

Stop being such spoilsports, they have their youth, the looks and the bodies, but mostly their youth


and

Just because your youth is long gone do not try to spoil theirs with your petty narrow outlooks.


You said all this in your first response to Serenity. I think you will find there is a big difference between expressing and opinion and being hostile.

I am not allowed to express myself openly and honestly and be myself, she always crits me for being myself.


Wow, Serenity must have some incredible power if she is preventing you from expressing yourself online. Just in case you don't know, I am being sarcastic.

Serenity is a warm, giving, wonderful person who has never, in the entire time I've been with JU, done anything to warrant your sort of response Jennifer. I think you need to sit back and take a good hard look at what you're doing because at the moment all you're doing is making yourself more and more unpopular.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
FS: You know we love ya!
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm having Deja Vu.
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm having Vuja De.


Is that like Zima?

Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
Reply By: little-whipPosted: Friday, October 20, 2006((((donna)))


Thx Whip, likewise!


You said all this in your first response to Serenity. I think you will find there is a big difference between expressing and opinion and being hostile.


Exactly Maso! From the get go, it was weird too since I didn't say one insulting thing in the article.



Wow, Serenity must have some incredible power if she is preventing you from expressing yourself online


Didn't you hear, I have super powers of precognition! I can see through walls and the computer screen, I know exactly what you're doing right now so go put some clothes on, no typing in the buff!!


Serenity is a warm, giving, wonderful person who has never, in the entire time I've been with JU, done anything to warrant your sort of response Jennifer.


Thanks Mark! I've said it before, I'm a lover not a fighter, unless I have to sock it to someone who deserves it!


Reply By: BlueDevPosted: Friday, October 20, 2006FS: You know we love ya!


Thanks Peter!


Reply By: IçonoçlastPosted: Friday, October 20, 2006I'm having Deja Vu.


Reply By: little-whipPosted: Saturday, October 21, 2006I'm having Vuja De.


!


Reply By: Gene NashPosted: Saturday, October 21, 2006I'm having Vuja De.Is that like Zima?


Zima the drink? You know I've never tried it, I've been meaning to!
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
According to the psycho-biatch-from-hell, you were inviting a flame war, saying all sorts of nasty things and hosting a bully-fest.


There's got to be some type of deficiency there somehow. There has to be. That, are just plain hate, why, I don't know? It's hard to fathom how I could stir up such a strong feeling of dislike in her? I haven't done anything to warrant this at all. I will have to address this later because it bothers me.


Weird, how so many people can see the exact same thing, yet one individual refuses to.


I know.
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top

I'm late to this thread, but I wanted you to know that I'm sorry this happened.  You're so sweet, and you didn't deserve the treatment you got.

 

Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm late to this thread, but I wanted you to know that I'm sorry this happened. You're so sweet, and you didn't deserve the treatment you got.


Thanks Karen!