Suicide is NOT painless...

from JoeUser Forums

I couldn't bring myself to write on this topic yesterday as it is just such a downer, but it deserves some comments and I think I'm ready to write on the issue a bit today.

Yesterday I went to my favorite Starbucks location and received the bad news that one of the regular baristas (and one of my favorites) there had just lost her husband over the weekend.  It seems that he had taken his own life and in doing so had left behind his wife and the rest of his family.

It's a tragic situation as this poor young lady had, to my knowledge, done nothing to warrant this sort of hurt and pain in her life.  Apparently her husband, all of 21 years of age, was a manic depressive.  He took his own life by shooting himself.  In taking the easy way out and killing himself he ended his pain, but has now added a lifetime of pain to this poor young lady.  For the rest of her life, she'll be wondering what she did, or didn't do, that led to this result.  The truth is probably nothing, but unfortunately she'll always have those questions and even if she is almost certain about it, there'll always be a tiny bit of doubt and questioning to nag away at her.

Suicide is most DEFINITELY NOT painless.  That theme song from M*A*S*H was wrong about that for sure.  There is almost always someone, somewhere, that is touched by the loss and hurt in more ways than the person that committed suicide will ever know.

I feel incredibly sorry for my friend (the barista).  She'll be carrying this burden for quite some time.  I hope she gets through things in a way that brings her peace with what happened, but it will likely be something that wears on her for a while.  Her co-workers, and her friends will be there for her and hopefully she'll lean on them and take comfort from them. 

It's all part of the web of people that are touched by such a tragedy when it occurs.  Though the person that commits suicide never knows it, the events they undertake do have an impact and effect on many people.

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Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

You're right,  it isn't painless.

We all touch other lives,  and quite often in positive ways even if we hadn't thought we were doing so.

I"ve never known anyone that took their own life,  although I've known a couple of people that have tried to.  The ripple effect, had they suceeded,  would have been enormous.

Sorry for the pain you feel for the barista and her family & friends.  I too hope she heals and can move on with her life with peace in her heart.

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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
The victims of Suicide are always the relatives and loved ones of the person committing the act.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
The victims of Suicide are always the relatives and loved ones of the person committing the act.


I agree with the op, I agree with this quote. My question is this: what if there are no loved ones left?
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top

what if there are no loved ones left?

If there are NO loved ones left, then I guess the question is moot.  Kind of like if a tree falls in a forrest....

Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
That's kinda the catch though. If someone known commits suicide they are hurting others.

The one's who probably have the best reasons to commit suicide though are probably the homeless who have noone therefore cause no pain?
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
The one's who probably have the best reasons to commit suicide though are probably the homeless who have noone therefore cause no pain?


Being homeless does not mean you have no family at all. A homeless person dies, other homeless people feel their death, a homeless person dies they may have family somewhere, it is a matter of tracing them. etc

In my book any death is sad whether that person leaves someone behind or not, somewhere in the world is someone whose life they touched at one time or another and when they find out about the death they will be saddened. My thoughts.

Suicide is selfish. The only time I find suicide acceptable is when you are euthanasing yourself and have said your goodbyes to everyone and tied up all the loose ends. This of course is a controversial subject.