Just Talking Sex...

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I don't know if it's because of the weather, but lately the topic of sex is in the air. I'm hearing it from people I never have these kind of discussions with, reading about it in other people's blogs, and have seen a lot of visually stimulating images, that perhaps weren't designed to be viewed in this manner.

In another girl's blog (not at Joeuser), she was idly writing about Lord of The Rings (the movie) and said that the movie could have garnered a better female response if the focus was changed from those hardy hobits and war-mongering men to the ethereal dreaminess of Eowyn, Arwen and Legolas. Instead of time spent on the war fields, the camera would be pointed in Lorien's direction where all the elves and other beauties would spend night after sultry night braiding each other's long, glossy hair, singing sensuous versions of the history of their people, viewing everything by dimmed and hazy light. She outlined such a fantasy of the ultimate on-going slumber party where everything was done lazily, with quiet passion, and reverence.

Yeah, it was kind of funny, but also interesting to see how a female perspective could automatically mean soft, lush, and gentle. Note that Legolas was included in the imagined scenario, but his prowess with a bow and arrow or a sharp knife was never mentioned. Just his dreamy looks. His masculinity seemed devoid in this setting.

Imajinit had a response to my previous article that discussed what 'nice guys' did, and how certain acts of a sexual nature that were desired by the same women that went for them was not in tune to what he thought would be considered something that 'nice guys' would do. Link I don't know. Does wanting to take a more assertive position mean that you are not behaving 'nicely'? If someone is more demanding and innovative of how their needs be met is it a more masculine quality? When does a sensuous moment turn into something more deviant? (If enjoying sensual
moments in situations other than the 'norm'?)

Just rambling, idly on...
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top

So the saying goes.....a princess on the street, and a whore in the bedroom.

I will vouch that is totally true.  I'm generally a "nice guy" in most respects.  That is i'm not a beer guzzling, obnoxious, yelling, foot-ball going, guy who's deviod of any interest in women other than their tits.

I'm the kinda person who has intelligent, challenging conversations with people...especially women cause they usually keep up better...simply cause that what I like to do.  The problem is that most guys dont realize that sex is somethign completely different.  In bed, primal forces take over and (most) women like being over-powered in the sense of having "a man" that is bigger and strong than them.

They dont want a guy who sheepishly attempts to feel them up and then backs down to see if it's ok.  They want a guy who will kiss them raw and passionally enough that they lose the sense to care when the guy frantically opens the button on her jeans.   :)

Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm with ya Nic... I don't think I need to repeat what I wrote in response to your other blog...
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
Nic's talking about sex and no one's commenting... what's wrong with you people? hehehe
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
Yea really!   Maybe if she was a confused teenage half-christian people would response more *shrug*
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
The thing is, talking about sex for some people, is more fun when the other person doesn't have a clue about it. They can give tips, hints and guidelines, and that's not exactly what I was propositioning. (hehe.)

I think that the acceptance of sexual relationships comes with maturity. The more experienced you are, the less impulsive you may be about defining what is morally acceptable to yourself, and to others thereby leading you open to be more accepting of trying different things. There are some things that you may experience that leads you to think, 'now what was so wrong and immoral about that?'

I disagree with the idea of being a 'good girl' outside and a 'whore' inside only because who says that a healthy sexual appetite is negative?

Trinitie questioned, in some other post relative to this one, about what I was referring to, sex or relationships and I found it odd to not want to correlate the two. In my opinion a good relationship must involve physical intimacy... otherwise you are missing out on something that can add so much to it. It's not the end all and be all of a relationship, but I feel it is a very important part of it in terms of really being able to express and share love.