Enough.

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I've been avoiding JU for the past few days.  I haven't wanted to be here. 

I got tired of all the bitching and biting, the insinuations and the blatant attacks.  I got tired of seeing people I care about get called traitors; I got tired of people I thought I knew making snide comments about people who really didn't deserve it.

I got tired of it.  I'm STILL tired of it.  I need to get it out, I need to vent a little....so if you don't want to hear it, stop reading NOW.

Simon got exiled.  He deserved to get exiled.  Just because he's LW's husband does NOT mean that Brad should treat him any differently than  any other blogger.  He wasn't a power or even a elite user, he was a regular citizen.  He had been consistently snide to Brad and to other bloggers in the past,  and the comment he made last week was enough for Brad to say goodbye forever and exile him.  

LW CHOSE to leave.  Nobody made her go, she left of her own accord.  Her husband got the boot, and she felt like she should go with him, and I don't blame her in the slightest.  I was pissed at her to start with and I emailed her and told her so, but now I've had time to calm down and I don't blame her for leaving at all.  If I were in her situation, I'd have done the same thing.

That's all that happened, folks.  There wasn't any ulterior motive, Brad didn't set anyone up, there was no sinister plot to topple LW from her blogging throne....what I described here is a truthful account of the events that led to Simon and LW leaving.

Unfortunately, some bloggers decided to make a mountain out of a molehill, and before long there were all kind of accusations flying around.   THAT's what I'm REALLY tired of, that's what inspired this article. 

 I have been called a traitor because I didn't leave with LW.  I don't understand it, I really don't.  Yes, LW and I are friends, and yes, I love her dearly, but....she CHOSE to leave, and her husband's leaving was justified.  It's not as if either of them had been unfairly treated; if that were the case then yes, I'd have probably left in protest.  But that's NOT what happened.  So, why should I be expected to give blogging here up?  Why should I be expected to walk away?  LW CHOSE to leave; she wasn't 'shown the door' or asked to leave, she made the decision to go on her own. 

I've been accused of kissing ass.  That's so far from the truth that at first I wasn't going to give it any attention, but....it pisses me off that just because I think it was a legitimate exiling I'm automatically kissing the owner's rear end.  That's fucking bullshit.  I agree with a lot of what Brad says and does, but kiss his ass?  Fuck that.  I don't kiss my husband's ass, there's no way I'm kissing ANYONE elses.

What kind of a person would I be if I DID leave with LW but really didn't want to because I didn't think she'd been treated unfairly (or Simon, for that matter)?  I'd be a fake, a false friend.  I WON'T do that.  I WON'T be two-faced like that.  I'm not going to fawn all over LW and her hubby, telling them that it's bullshit he got booted when I think it's not.  I'm not going to do that to her OR to myself.

I've had enough of this hysterical shreiking and screeching.  I've had enough of the name calling and the backbiting.  I've had enough of the finger pointing and accusations.  This has gone on for too long now; it really should stop.  I can't MAKE it stop, the only people who can....well, they know who they are. 

I've had enough, JU.   

Enough.

 

(Oh, and by the way...my email address is really easy to find, it's right under my blog roll.  I'd appreciate it if people who want to accuse me of things could do so in private before they do it in public.  That's what friends do, you see.  They give each other the benefit of privacy when they argue.)

 

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
I agree with you that enough is enough...

We all have differing opinions on the topic, and that's fine. But life is going to go on, with or without Simon and Sabrina here at JU.

It is what it is, and there's no sense in any more people getting their toes trampled.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I heard those melodramatic strings when I read this, like in the old 50's hollywood films. Very touching. But if it were really enough, wouldn't you just drop it instead of continuing to talk about it? lol
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top

But if it were really enough, wouldn't you just drop it instead of continuing to talk about it? lol

Apart from the 'golden rule' article, this is the first thing I've said about it.  And, with the exception of one thread, you won't find any comments from me regarding the subject.

I'm just tired of the melodrama, Myrr.  It's like being in high school, and I'm very tired of it. 

 

Nice to see you here, btw.  I missed you.

It is what it is, and there's no sense in any more people getting their toes trampled

Exactly.  People can decide to either agree with the reasons and the actions, or they can disagree.  Either way, it's been said, it's been done, and that's that. 

Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top

I must confess I haven't been paying that close attention.  I don't really get into the soap opera stuff.  So I'm not sure who is saying what.

I guess I don't see what the big deal is.  Little Whip chose to leave. It was her decision. She wasn't forced out by us.  Though now that she's gone, I really would prefer she's not return.

In all likelyhood, there is msging going on in the background. Who knows.  But it'll pass. Every several months some melodrama comes up like this.  Remember Wisefawn? And before her there were people whose handles I can't even remember.  Communities change over time. People come and go. 

The core of a community is greater than the sum of its parts because ultimately, the parts are transient.  People get into JoeUser (mainly) because it is a place where they can express themselves and have a chance of having lots of different people read what they do.  I saw Phoenixboi, for instance, loudly saying how he's leaving (again and again and again) but no one reads his blog other than a handful of people he's brought over from here and elsewhere.  It's not because his writings aren't good -- they are.  It's just the nature of most blog sites.

JoeUser combines blogging with community. That's the key mixture (and what makes JU so expensive per user). 

But the second thing that I think attracts people to JU is the community. But the community isn't any indivdual or group of indivuduals, it's everyone combined.  The individuals will change over time but the community continues.

There are many bloggers I miss that are gone or rarely visit.  I have a hard time remembering their handles right now but their absence is felt.  But that is the nature of on-line communities.

Ultimately and I know some people hate to hear this, LW is a toxic user. She's been on the edge many times in the past. We all know this.  I think the only reason she kept it remotely in check here was because she had a following people who, from what I could tell, she often bullied or intimidated into being supportive of her -- which is ironic because that is the sort of thing she and her husband accused me of.